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writes:Have i made the right choice? My now ex partner and i were together for 7 years, its had its ups on downs and there had also been the slight bit of violence at times. We had 2 children 5 and 2 yrs. During this relationship i was never sure if i could trust him,i discovered a couple of text messages on his phone after i found it hidden in his sock draw. They were suggestive and rude. I had never known who had sent them, i did however make contact with this person but they wouldnt let on what went on or who they were, they did however know alot about him and the name of my child, she sent me a text saying i should get over him as she had done. I susspected this was someone who knew my partner quite well and even thought it might of been his ex whom he had a grown up son with. I carried on but in my mind it was always there. Recently i discovered that he had arranged to meet his ex and had not told me, he said it was to discuss his sons car and that i was paraniod. I let this go but then saw he had sent her a message on his computer telling her he had changed his password so it was ok? I assume he ment for her to message him. I then found a text message sent at one in the morning to her saying nite nite x. He claims this was innocent but i wasnt so sure. He knew i was angry with him and has recently moved out and is living with his mum. I feel really let down and hurt, and am not sure if i was right to give it up, what if i was wrong and he hasnt ever done anything, i feel so fed up and lost.
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reader, TimmD  +, writes (1 July 2010):
 Yes, you made the right choice. Anytime a relationship has ANY kind of violence, no matter how small you think it may be... it's bad. Just look at the facts: Violence, secrets, lies. Is that a relationship you always dreamed that you'd have?
Also, another sign is when an ex warns you away. Too many times when you are in love you are quick to pass the ex off as "crazy", but in reality a lot of times they already know what kind of a guy he is and are trying to warn you. OR there is still something going on between them.... which is also something you don't want to be a part of.
All of the signs point to him being trouble. Listen to the signs.
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