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writes:my boyfriend of a month often goes away on business trips but he's not very good at keeping in touch while away (even though he says he will).3 days ago I sent him a text to see if he's ok...he didn't reply anything. After 2 days of no reply, I sent him a text from my other mobile line (he didn't know the number) and asked him if he's ok. He replied immediately , asked me who I was (since I didn't write my name) and was all flirty. He texted me by calling me "sweetie" and that he can "barely contain himself with excitement". I think he thought some ex of his wanted to re-connect. He texted around 5 times in a row without him knowing that he's texting me. I even went so far as to ask him if he's seeing someone but he just replied with 'who are you , where are you?'After that I sent him a text and told him that it seems he enjoys texting random people but I'm still waiting for a reply to a text i sent him 2 days ago. I then revealed my name and told him I'm missing him too. He didnt' send me anything after that. Today I texted him and asked him to let me know when he comes back so that I could take back my clothes from his flat. He replied immediately and said he can't wait to see me and that he's missing me so much! Should I reply and tell him that we'll talk when he gets back, or that it's over? or should I just not reply? I'm so confused :S
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2010): I'm the poster of this question. Thanks for your replies.
Jenni, I wasn't pretending to be a stranger. When I first texted him from my other line, it was because I couldn't use my other mobile phone line (the number he knows). But it's a good thing that I did that as I know now what kind of man he is and what he deserves: to be dumped. I can't wait for him to come back and for me to tell him that it's over (although he probably realised from me not replying to his last text).
Actions speak louder than words and I can't believe that I fell for his words. Just before he left, he was calling me and telling me that he's going to miss me so much and then he didn't even bother to keep in touch. I know we've been together for only a month and that I can't expect much but I won't accept this treatment from him. The first month is supposed to be the most exciting month where both partners are all over each other. In this case, however, he'd rather reply to strangers than his brand new girlfriend, how sad, I deserve better :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2010): First of all I think its odd that you would go to the lengths of pertending to be a stranger for a man you have been with for a month.
Secondly he may have been trying to get some space away from the relationship everyone need their own space from time to time.
If I were you I'd end this now you ovo dont trust your man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2010): You said that you have been with him for one month right? How long did you date him before entering into a committed relationship? I hope you understand that it takes time for people to fall for the other person whether it be love or just caring about the person. Feelings are not something that you can force....it just happens with time.
It sounds like this guy is playing you or at least trying too. He is NOT that into you and is just leading you on. He knows that you care...more so than he does. See when a woman shows that she cares too much early on a guy takes her for granted. It's so rude that your bf would rather text some random person but refuse to text you back, allowing days to go by without responding. I have dated these types of guys before and it diff. appears as though he doesn't care, and is playing you for a fool. You can either stay with him or play him at his own game. Try being distant and unreachable.
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