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writes: I have been dating a girl for the past 3 months. We have gotten along fine and have actually never been in a fight, but my heart is just not in it any more. I struggled with the same thing at the beginning of the relationship, but I thought I have gotten over it, but my lack of heart is back and I don't think it is going away. She is a great girl and is crazy about me and I really don't want to hurt her. On top of all this, she has been having a lot of family trouble and I don't want to add to the pain she is already having. I don't want to hurt her, but I feel as if I am wasting both her and my time by keeping this relationship going. I have a feeling she thinks it is fine, but it's just because I don't want to add to her pain by ignoring her. What do I do??? Reply to this Question
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (9 June 2009):
Wow, 3-months? If it's only been 3 short months, then you must not have been into her in the first place. Did you just go with the flow because you just wanted someone to be there, so you just went with it?
I think you should be honest. Even though you don't want to hurt her--it's also not fair to her to be with someone who's not really into the relationship. Trust me, it's way more hurtful to be with someone that's with you out of pity. Don't string her along. Just let her know that you understand she's not in the best situation right now and you don't want to add to it, but that you don't feel that it's fair to HER to continue a relationship with her if your heart isn't in it. She'll be upset, and you'll feel bad. But you'll both get over it eventually. Good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2009): What you do is man up. You care about her because you don't want to hurt her so what you do is stay with her and you make her happy and don't break up its the summer and that's incredibly lame man. You will get to know her and love her don't worry, there must be some reason why you dated her so get to know her you never know she might be your one, or your golden girl.
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