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*kha
writes:hi everyonel real need some advice.l had sex with my bf and after 1 week he send me an a sms saying that l infected him with some kind of sickness l must go for a treatment. l went to de clinic to get help then the nurse told me that they cannot test me for sti if l don't have any symtoms that shows that l may have sti then l told them why I needed to be tested they only tested me for HIV and they said he must tell me what kind of sickness it is when l told my bf he couldn't tell me he told me that l must get treatment then l asked him [how can l get treatment 4 something which l don’t even know if l have it or not.]When l asked him again if he went for treatment he said it none of my business what he did or not. L real love him but now l don’t know what 2 do l never cheated on him.thank you for taking your time and read my letter.4rmskha[Moderator note: I took the time to edit this post for some txtspk abbreviations. Please do not use those abbreviations, thank you.]
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reader, skha +, writes (24 April 2010):
skha is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you so much for all your answers.l real appreciate your help.l will go back to clinc and ask to be tested for all STDs.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (23 April 2010):
 That sounds odd, the clinic should be able to test you for absolutely anything. But naturally, the most common ones should be tested first if you are not sure what you have. However if it's a not so common one it can take a lot of testing and a lot of money to find it when you dont even have a clue. Tell your ex again that the clinic says they can't help her unless you know what to get tested for. If he can't understand that try and explain the situation again to your doctor.
Could it be that your ex is being mean and simply playing a trick on? Maybe he doesn't have any STI at all and is only trying to scare you and waste your money?
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reader, raiders  +, writes (23 April 2010):
 How long ago did you have sex with your boyfriend? With some STD you don't have signs right away it takes time to manifest itself. You should be able to get tested without symptoms and if the clinic don't do it because they need to know what exactly are they looking for than have a list ready of STD and have them go down the line, it's your health and you should be able to demand a proper check up.
Now with your boyfriend is his new title my-ex boyfriend cause if its not it should be,,, I hope all your results come back negative and good luck.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (23 April 2010):
 This sounds like a horrible lie to you. Are you sure it was your boyfriend? Could it be someone who is jealous and got hold of his phone?
Anyway, the clinic should be able to test you for all kinds of STIs, though I doubt you actually have one. Here is a guide for you to help:
http://www.webmd.com/sexual-conditions/guide/sexual-conditions-tests
I hope this helps. Stay calm and look for a better doctor, ask to be tested for the more common STIs by name, if necessary.
Take care.
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reader, aria Ana  +, writes (23 April 2010):
I am not even going to ask: did you use protection because it's obvious you didn't, else you would not have this problem. That is the main problem here. You are young, very young, and if you want to live a long, happy life, use protection or keep your legs crossed. Then, I think this boyfriend of yours whom you love so dearly is a ...jerk. I don't think he got anything from you. He just slept with you, reached his goal and now he's getting rid of you. Sorry, but that is what I believe. I hope, for your sake, that I am wrong. But all those answers, evasive and the way he seems to want to avoid you...As for the nurses...there is not a test that just examines the vagina's mucous and detects the problem? I am sorry, I don't know too much about it, thankfully. Insist by the doctor, not nurses, and forget about the so-called boyfriend, aka jerk. If he's playing this dirty just to get rid of you...he's not human. And insults the animals who, by the way, have rules about relationships.They don't fool around. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2010): Uh what? This sounds sketchy...Go back to your clinic and tell them you want to be examined and tested for all STD/STIs! If they you that you have nothing, then your clean. Then dont have sex with your boyfriend -.-I wouldn't trust him if I were you.If you are not showing any symptoms then you don't have Herpes, Syphilis, etc. Not to say that it can't show up down the road... The more quieter STDs are HIV/AIDs, Chlamydia and Gonorrhea.
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