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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:I have known my man for about two years. it is a serious relationship but the problem is he wont even spend the weekend with me or spend the night at my home. One time he spend the weekend his mother get upset and call him, saying she disapprove him sleeping out because he know her rules already.His Mother spoke with me on the phone and told me she aint approve her son sleeping out. Not unless we marry. From there on he is not doing it, i don't know why. we had countless battle with that till i fed up. he's not giving in. the problem is he dont want to take our relationship to the next level yet he dont want to come over and sleep because of his mother. he is telling him he grieving her heart all because of me. we dont have the finance to get married right now. if we do we'll have to lean on my salary to do it. cause he have a vehicle loan payment already. so are we suppose to sacrifice our happiness for his Mother! or for his family. he tells me my family done set. thats true in a sense but my family i want to start with aint start much less to set because i want him and me to be family. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2009): I don't know the customs and normal behavior where you live, so it is difficult for me to advise you. However, my family tried to tell me what to do when I was in my mid 30s and divorced. They didn't approve of me staying at my girlfriend's place and wanted to know what I was doing with someone like that. I just ignored them and did what I wanted to do, as I was an adult and could make up my own mind what I thought was proper.
Does you boyfriend live alone or with his mother? If he still lives with her then that makes it very difficult for him to do what he thinks is best. If he lives alone then it is up to him to decide if he wants her to dictate his life at his age or if he wants to do what he thinks is best.
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