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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Im so confused bout life that its making me dizzy literally in my head! I feel im always running out of time and that if i dont settle down get marrie and another child by 30 it will be too late. My main problem is that im really not happy with the situation im in! Me and my boyfriend or nearly 3 yrs keeping breaking up and getting back together! Mainly cos he dont spend enough time with me hes like doing lots of things with the lads drinking. Going out etc! Hes 30! I feel i love him more than he does me i want to plan things were he just likes to live day to day so hes not commited to anything! We dont live together. Never been away on hol together in 3yrs! Hes said hes quite messed up and doesnt like the idea of being trapped! Also i dont trust him completely he has like two sides! One where hes all loving with me. But one when hes with his mates he like to be the big man centre of attention! He gets loads of come ons from women because of this and like to make out he single! He wouldnt ever kiss me in front of his friends cos he has a reputation and he says that shows weakness! Thats why im left stuck at home while he goes out with his friends and friends as girls which some r exs! I dont like that! And my mind just races thinking whats he up too! I cant go on like this. But when where together hes lovely. I hold on to that! Cos i know i find it hard to find someone new! Whats wrong with him? Why wouldnt he want to spend time with someone who just wants any easly life and do what normal couples do! I dont get it!
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reader, malum424  +, writes (7 May 2009):
 Because he's a stupid arse, or as we in the State like to say an ass monkey. To me the fact that he's so hung up on his own reputation is the biggest sign of weakness. The fact that he needs other to tell him what a big man he is just sad, and if he really felt like he was the king of the hill then he'd have no problem telling his mates that you're his girl .Tell him what you want out of him if he still feels that his reputation is more important then your feelings as his lover or a person then leave him because he's not worth your time.
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