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writes:Hi,The other day whilst watching a film with my boyfriend the characters mentioned snuggle time when I asked him if we could have snuggle time he said no because were not married!!Later that evening we had a arguement I told him I loved him he ignored me I started to cry them he started crying too we had a cuddle then he said here's your snuggle time.Were both 29 years old and been dating for 5 months exclusively.I sorry but I don't get it why is he associating cuddling with marriage? His affectionate in other ways like holding hands. Thoughts please. X Reply to this Question
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reader, PerhapsNot  +, writes (9 July 2012):
 You should tell him then that you two can't have sex because that's what married people do. Make sure you add more things to the list like: never making him anything to eat, not ever cleaning up after him, never taking care of him when he is not feeling well, ect. I hope you realize how silly this sounds.
Basically, he is not a cuddler. He doesn't like to do it and he won't until he has to. You can either accept that, or he can accept the following: when you're in a relationship, you will have to do things to make someone else happy. Even if it means more cuddles. If he can't manage to compromise on this, I say run for the hills. If he won't accommodate you on such a small thing, can you imagine something more important?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi thanks, no we already started having sex 4 months into our relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2012): perhaps he is worried that cuddling will lead to sex? maybe you both need to sit down and discuss what is apropriate for you both and what isnt, so that you can avoid situations like this in the future x
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