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writes:Hi, I'm in a bit of a strange situation at the moment. I have been with my boyfriend for just over 2 years now and we moved in together a month ago. He has been asked to work away from home for 3 months which will start just before christmas. It is a great opportunity for him and it will bring us alot of extra cash which we need. My problem is when we first starting seeing each other he went away for 1 month and cheated on me. I chose to forgive him and weve had a great relationship ever since but now i'm terrified it will happen again. Also I'm worried about being away from each other for so long that maybe we won't go the distance.. i don't know what to do for the best, I'm afraid of loosing him. I'd really appreciate some advice...
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (30 October 2007):
 Hi,
I think you have to give him the benefit of the doubt. Otherwise why are you still together? You trust him now dont you? The cheating was done at the start of the relationship, now you are two years in and making plans for the rest of your life.
Hell , there is one sure way to find out if its worth going the distance with this guy, if he cheats again you have your answer. Personally, I would give him the credit to behave himself.
The bottom line is, these opportunities will present themselves in the future, there's only one way to find out how you both will handle the separation and thats to do it.
If he plays up dump him and count yourself lucky that you've got out when you can. But don't spend all your time worrying while he's gone, that will be defeatist.
good luck
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