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writes:dear helpful people :)this is a long story, im confused where i stand. i met this guy at a club, and we got on really well. we agreed to go to the next one a week later and we just wandered outside for most of the night and talked endlessly. he lives around 20-30 miles from me.understandably, we couldn't meet for a while, and before we did meet, we agreed that i would give him a hand job and he could do anything above the waist. i freaked out, but i talked myself around and by sunday (when we met up) i was fine about it. i totally freaked out that day, i told him i just wasnt ready to take things that far, i totally lost my confidence and bottled it. now i miss him so much, but im worried he doesnt feel the same. he has made no effort to contact me, wont talk to me willingly and when i try to talk to him online, he just logs off. i miss him so much, i think im falling for him, i really do. what hurts the most is that he doesnt seem to want to start a relationship with me. that leads me to think he obviously cant love/miss me because otherwise he would go out with me regardless. im not arguing with his opinion, because i want to keep him happy, but its making me so sad, because i know we are more than friends, because we have kissed etc.i have no idea what to do. he is reluctant to meet up with me. he told me we would meet in half term, but now we cant, he has 'too much revising', 'too many house parties' and a '1 week holiday'. i know he might be busy/live far away etc, but i would clear everything and put him first, but he wont do the same. he has also cancelled on me last minute on several occassions. someone help me, i dont know what to do. im confused where i stand, should i move on? is he worth it?sorry for the length, please help me :'(
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reader, The Devils-Angel  +, writes (28 May 2011):
 ok i'm going to give you the advice my friend gave me when my boyfriend broke up with me. he told me that if i truely cared about him then not to give up on him. so if you truely care about, him which i think you do, then don't give up on him just yet. fight for him and eventually he will see that he messed up and if he cares about you too he will come around just like my boyfriend did now me and my boyfriend are back together and are happier than ever. so don't give up just yet.
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