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age
30-35,
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writes:heya,i was going out with my boyfriend for almost 2 years, we both lost our viginitys to each other, we were in love and had so much trust in our relationship, so it felt right.he was amazing, in the way that he cared for me and always made sure he wasnt 'hurting' me. i felt so comfortable with him.now, im scared to get 'close' to anyone else in case i cant do it right for them or it hurts me and they find me weird for not being able to carry on. Also, i dont want to have sex with another boy that im not close to (one night stand)as i dont want to 'get around' or get a bad reputation for being a slut. but, if they ask, i dont want to say that as my reason as they might think i'm fridgid or just weird or something? i know that if they become dis-interested in me because i wont have sex with them, their simply not worth it but im scared to have it with anyone else im not 'getting with', in case i do it wrong? or they dont respect me for wanting to stop. please help!! what can i say ?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2008): you cant really mess up sex, sex is sex... Dont worry if he is that caring, then he wont care if you "dont do sex right" whatever that is
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (4 May 2008):
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wow. that read like a character form Little Britian.
i think you need to keep in mind at you age, most guy probably woulnd't know if you're doing it right or not.
in fact most guys around your age will just be thrilled to see a girl naked. if they're getting laid too hell you could lay there like a corpse and they'd still be happy... and most guys woulnd't notice anyhow.
people can get hurt during sex.. thats what communication if all about.
sadly like riding a bike. its all practice practice practice. just don't become the town bike.
I'm not saying don't have sex and zip it shut. and i'm not saying lube up, open your legs and stick a sign that says " free orgasm apply within" either. if it feels right.. then hel do it. enjoy yourself. good sex is about being attracted to the person you're with either emotionally of phsyiclly or both.
and communication communi blah blah blah.
and get on the pill.
and buy some rubbers.
Why?
#1. you're around the age of 16-17 and england doens't need another teenage mother.
2# because england doesn't need another teenage mother thats got a wide selection of STD's.
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