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*aura112
writes:I started seeing a guy back in January. He said that he was divorced and living alone. We talked every day and met up a few times but after I slept with him he then ditched me and said he couldn't get involved. He did try to stay in contact after this but I didn't allow it. Then after a couple of months I heard from him again. We got talking and only after me telling him I thought he was living with someone did he admit to still being married and having a kid! I told him I wasn't interested and meant it but he kept in contact and told me that he was getting divorced and that he was trying to sort out getting his own place. He also tells me that he works away alot and doesn't see his wife. He tells me he has a really well paid job but when I rang up this company they had no record of him. He tells me he is telling the truth now but I know that is a lie but even after all the horrible things he has done I still find myself talking to him and staying in contact. He wants us to meet up for sex and I know that I must be mad to even consider it but I fancy him so much I really want to. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2007): You asked what you should do - you didn't ask if we thought you should you meet up for no-strings sex!
That's up to you. Depends on your moral values I suppose. At least you're under no illusions as to his character so if you end up being hurt, at least you'll be expecting it.
Just make sure his wife doesn't find out about you and where you live.
Phil
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reader, Laura112 +, writes (1 October 2007):
Laura112 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo the person who is too scared to put her name to the answer....... Firstly I didn't know he was married at the beginning or I would of never got involved! and why should I feel shame when I'm single and doing nothing wrong! Yes I know he's a liar I said that in my message and did I say I wanted a relationship with him??? No! I wouldn't have a relationship with someone like him which is why the question I posted was whether to meet up for no strings attached sex! You have obviously been cheated on in the past which is why you feel strongly about this...
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2007): can't you find a single guy who isn't a complete liar? And one who isn't just using you for sex? The guy probably works at a fast food restaurant & is married with kids & his wife probably supports him and he's cheating on her & lieing saying he's getting divorced. I don't understand why other women would give in to these jerks who are married & just want sex..it's obvious there is no relationship & there will never be one. But you go ahead & help him be unfaithful to his family, I hope the sex is worth your shame you should feel after. especially after he ditches you again.
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reader, oneday  +, writes (30 September 2007):
he is a waste of your time, lose his number right away and get a new number so he never has any way of contacting you, trust me I'm a man and i know bull from a distance - this is one
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2007): Do whatever you want to do, but this guy obviously wants you for one thing and one thing only!
It MUST be obvious to you that he's a compulsive liar who just wants to get inside your knickers, and who will lie his way there!
I'll wager there's no divorce proceedings in the pipeline and that his wife is completely unaware of his infidelity.
I'm sure you don't need me to tell you what to do now!
Phil
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