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writes: My boyfriend of 18 months wants to go to south america for a month on his own as opposed to 2 weeks with me - I can not go any longer as I have 3 children to consider - does this man really love me ? should I end it now ? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2005): I think that your b/f wants to take the opportunity to travel. YOU have 3 children, not him. I would suggest lettting him go travelling without hassling him and hopefully he will come back and thru my experience of these things he will probably come back earlier than a month if he does love you. Or maybe you can suggest that he goes for a month and you can join him for two weeks. Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2005):
A month in South America may be a once in a lifetime thing. Let the dude go and stop taking his life goals as slaps at you
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reader, Tim +, writes (22 November 2005):
 it means to me he doesn't love u at all sorry, i can't travel without someone if i will be in love with ;)
Good luck
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reader, iggyzap +, writes (21 November 2005):
this would surely break my heart too. It sounds to me that he has some preplaned engagements. Does he go to chat rooms alot or talk to people online? maybe he has met someone that way and plans to meet up with them (not uncommon at all these days) but you know him and you would know better then us of course. it just seems fishy. I could not fathom wanting to leave the person for a whole month especially if i had the chance of taking them with me. with the small sacrfice of a 2 week trip instead of a 4. you have been together for a while now and he knows your situation well (kids)and i think if he realy loves you then he would go with you or he would give you a damn good explanation of why he would rather go alone. if he goes for the explanation then i suggest you get your boots ready because your probably going to be knee deep in bullshit.
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (21 November 2005):
 What has he got planned to do in that month? Have you asked him?
I think you need to sit down and talk to him about this and ask him why it is that he wishes to go away without you and ask him for a straight and honest answer. Only then can you decide what to do on the basis of what he says.
He obviously knows that you have your children to consider and you need to know from him why he prefers to go away without you. Surely, all being well, it would be better for him to go away with you for two weeks than a month on his own?
I think there is something he isn't saying and you need to find out what that is. You can decide what his feelings for you are when he replies. If he just wants to go away without you for some fun, then perhaps you need to seriously consider whether your relationship has a future.
If he feels he needs a break, decide from his elaboratd answer what to do next.
I hope this helps.
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