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*atie delis on
writes:My boyfriend want to have sex.butI am a Christian and I am not allowed to have sex till I am married what should I do
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (5 July 2015):
 If you firmly believe that sex before marriage is NOT for you, then tell him so (my guess is you already have) and IF he can not respect that, he may NOT be for you.
NEVER let someone pressure you into having sex or doing things you really don't want to do, like sexy pictures, eating snails... It's OK to have boundaries, values, morals and religious beliefs.
Stick to your guns.
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (5 July 2015):
Dont have sex with him just because he wants it and doesnt respect your beliefs. Trust me, you would regret it in the long run.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2015): I agree with what the others have been saying. Not wanting sex before marriage is part of who you are. If he still insists he wants to have sex with you even after you have explained to him that you don't want that, he's not respecting you for who you are, and doesn't deserve to be your boyfriend.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (4 July 2015):
 Katie: Print out a copy of your submittal. Show it to him, and tell him: "These are my rules. If you are OK with them... then let's continue what's going on between us. If you find them unacceptable, then let's shake hands, part ways, and say, "Damn, I liked him/her and am disappointed that it things didn't go any further"..."
Good luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2015): If he can't accept your beliefs then don't stay with him. If he loves YOU he would be happy to support your belief or be honest enough to tell you that he doesn't share that belief and would leave you to find someone else who does.
Don't do anything you don't want to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2015): One of the toughest challenges in life you will face is standing by your beliefs and doing what you feel is right for you.
Other people will tempt and pressure you, but it's up to you to decide how important your values are. Not place it in the hands of other people; then feel guilty or bad about it after they made up your mind for you.
Giving-in to what men want or demand from you is always going to be a challenge for you as a female, and as a strong independent woman. The more you say no, the more you'll be pressured. Don't do anything until you want to, and you're ready to. What you do with your body is your choice to make, and your reasons are your business.
Remember this. You don't get pleasure from doing things you were pressured into doing. You feel better about it, when you do it of your own freewill.
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reader, Garbo +, writes (4 July 2015):
 Never do anything, including sex, that you are not comfortable with. If having sex is something you do not want, whatever the reason, then don't do it and be firm about it. If your man does not accept that then he could be a wrong man. Nor should you feel that you will be hurting his feelings by not succumbing to pressure because, like love, you can't be coerced in it as the whole idea about sex is for both participants, not just one, to be joyous doing it.
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