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writes:Well Ive been seeing this israeli guy for 3 months now. Im not a religious person and he is secular too. Hes an engineer whos working for an american company and hes pretty much like just westners. Though he cares about his family very much and sometimes thinks like a sexist with a hint of aggressive vibe.We are having fun when were together though he flies a lot because of his job and I also have my career I dont get to see him that often. So basically even if were going out for 3 months its not really feeling like 3 months.For more details, I met him at a bar and since we both are sexually open minded we didnt mind having a hot night at the day we met. And he doesnt live in my country yet he only visits here for work and staying here for two or more weeks. Because of these things Ive been trying not to get into a serious relationship with him or get attached to him too much, just to keep things casual.But we recently agreed on that were going to be exclusive and he introduces me as a gf to his coworkers and sisters. Still we are both kinda sarcastic and tend to be playing cool, we dont really discuss the serious relationship yet. But I can tell hes into me for now and I do like him and care about him. We are treating each other with mutual respect.And the other day he said his mother is coming to my country and he wants me to meet her. I think this is going to be just casual thing because its not like shes coming because of me. Shes coming to take a tour and relax with her son because this time hes supposed to stay in my country for 3 months and its a long time for her.But, lately I found out there are so many bad streotypes about israeli guy dating asian girls(mostly my friend told me) and I try not to generalize things, but I get a little curious if he is serious at least for now or this is just a game for him. Usually I dont do bf gf stuff and prefer open relationship or just enjoy being single. Me being in an exclusive relationship is kinda big step for me and I did it because I trust him at this moment however long this relationship could last. I just want him to be honest with me if hes playing, which I dont mind at all, I would like that too as long as were having fun together and fond of each other. So, ummm, lets get back to this meeting mother thing. Should I see this meeting his mom as a proof that he starts to take me seriously or it doesnt mean that much? Either way Im cool because I do like him but for now I dont have any idea about how this relationship would work without me or him sacrificing current career. I have had great time with him and its good enough for now.I care about him and either way I really want to get ready and please his mother :) But Im not really familiar with their culture and I dont know its serious or not. If it is, well, I could put some more efforts I guess.So, thanks for bearing with me and help me. Meeting this guys mother, its something or what?Wait, and, she bought me something like bistle designed by some famous one. What should I get her to make her smile?
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reader, Great or Good  +, writes (7 April 2012):
 Thanks for your good question, I think this will help a lot of people who are kind of having a similar questions.
Take this easy, be who you are, don't try to make things in which you are not, or what you never did to please his mom.
I think one of the reason why he wants you to meet his mom is because he is happy with you and as you are.
As a man very few of us want our parents in particular our mothers, to know or meet a lady I am kind of not serious with. Then i think he might be ready to be with you.
Please talk to him before his mom arrive, he started then there is less to worry about. Go ahead ask him or talk to him about what he wants.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (7 April 2012):
 Just be yourself, don't try and put on an act. He knows who you really are and I'm sure that is who he wants his mother to meet. Without knowing the woman am not sure what you could get her as a gift. Maybe ask your man for some ideas. It was not a stupid question I understand where you are coming from but it really is best to talk to him about it, especially now since he has took it one step further by asking you to meet his mother, I think this is a good time to talk to him and ask him what he wants to happen between the both of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks. Im well aware of that this is really a stupid question. Just I dont even have any ideas where this is going and how this could work out even if I deep down inside know where I want it to go, I think its not the right moment I can ask him about it. I assumed he likes me but he also had no ideas what he has to do from now on, but, out of blue, he asked me to meet his mother, so I guess I got a little freaked out.
Well, either way, what kind of things mothers into? I havent met any mothers of guys Ive met since my first boyfriend. Im a little getting nervous if I can make hia mother glad or not.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (7 April 2012):
Well it sounds serious enough to me when he is wanting you to meet his mother and she has bought you a gift, it sounds like it is moving in a serious direction, but if I am honest with you nobody can answer these questions that you are asking but him. you both need to discuss where this is going and what you both want. There is no point trying to guess it or even to allow your friends to put ideas in to your head. you just need to talk to him about it and ask him what he wants.
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