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writes: My ex gay boyfriend, 21, has put up a wall of silence since our split after six months a month ago.I am 33 and was deeply shocked when he suddenly chose to end things, saying the relationship was not working for him. Instead of ending things face to face he simply did not turn up one night - forcing my hand to end things.He has had a lot of personal problems of late - stress at work, death of his grand-dad, mum and dad in relationship crisis - and it’s hard to believe they did not play a part in the collapse of our partnership. He was always the one to send loving text messages on a daily basis.Since the split, we arranged to meet - after he sent me a long caring e-mail - but he did not turn up saying he was tired - although I know for a fact he was out later that night.I called him this week and he agreed to phone me back, but he didn’t saying he was out with friends. He texted me later telling me to chill out and that I had not upset him in any way, saying he would in touch.We had a great, honest relationship which was wonderful but since the split he simply wont talk or get in touch.He has put up a wall of silence but I know for a fact that he will get in touch again soon, we will arrange to meet, and it won’t happen.I am finding it hard to let go of this person as I just need a little more closure but it seems he is unwilling to give it to me. Yet, whenever he texts and I don’t respond within five minutes he replies asking why I haven’t.I get the impression he may not be wanting to get in touch because he may feel guilty about the way he ended things but I have given every chance to make-a-mends.Has anyone out there had similar experiences?
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reader, shania  +, writes (25 February 2006):
 To put it in a nutshell Greg....he doesnt want to know.If he honestly,felt guilty about the way he ended the relationship....he would of made amends by now.He sounds very immature in some ways...by the way he handled the break up.He txts you then demands to know why you havent replied back.....what game is he playing here? I think he likes the fact that he has some control over you because he hasnt had any control over his parents relationship or his grandfathers death.....but at your expence.I know you want some closure here but you are not going to get it with this guy...your best bet is to walk away and put it down to experience....there are plenty of fellas out there who are mature enough to having a relationship with you and not mess you about with silly mind games.
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