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writes:Im 15 and seriousy deeply deeply in love!!! iv known this boy for a while now and fell for him the first day i saw him! we swapped numbers and have been in contact ever since! i told him how i felt and he told me he felt the same. we hadn't spoke 4 a few weeks and he rung me 2 see how i was doing? he came and seen me that night and we had a nice chat and a few kisses and cuddles. i now cant stop thinking about him. he kept coming down and we carried on ringing and texting each other. i slept with him a few weeks after that and he made me feel special by constantly telling me he loved me and wanted to be with me. After this he stopped texting me and wouldn't answer my calls. when he finally did i confronted him into thinking i had been used. he told me he had a new girlfriend and no longer wants anything 2 do with me. this left me heart broken and alone i feel like i want to end my life. i found out that he hasn't got a girlfriend that was just an excuse to get rid of me. i really love him and cant stop thinking about him everytime someone mentions his name i breakdown. i want him back can anyone help or give me some advice in how to do this?
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (16 May 2007):
 You may think you 'love' him but it is a real mixed bag of emotions. You have a few life lessons to learn here:
1. Teenage boys will tell you anything to get you into bed - they are very preoccupied with sex and being able to tell their mates they have done it. Wait until you are in a proper relationship before you start thinking about sleeping with someone - sex is rubbish without trust.
2. You say you love this boy but it is time to learn to love yourself more. It is a matter of self respect at the end of the day. We all make mistakes with boys at your age (and much later!) but the secret is to learn from that experience and move on knowing you won't let it happen again. Otherwise you wander through life like a doormat being stamped on by anyone and everyone. I am not saying get all cynical about boys but realise that not all of them are going to be honest about their feelings. Never say you feel like dying over a boy...honestly other people are so not worth doing anything drastic for! Just put this one down to life experience and move on.
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reader, Nasty Ashman +, writes (15 May 2007):
Let's list some facts:He lied to youHe INTENTIONALLY hurt youHe doesn't care about your feelingsAnd all this happened AFTER you slept with him so he used you for sex.I'm sorry if this sounds in-your-face but I think you need to be reminded of just the kind of selfish and hurtful things he did because he wanted to get rid of you.Now you are only 15 and you've got your WHOLE life ahead of you 8-D. Not only that but you are a VERY special person and you deserve someone who will appreciate and love you for YOU!All I can say is keep remembering that list of facts whenever you feel like you want him back and remind yourself just how much he hurt you. That will help to relieve these feelings.In the meantime, have a nice day and remember this; Teen romances seldom last forever and that's a GOOD thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2007): You are so young and your thinking of ending your life for a boy? are u serious and trust me it cant be love he obviously didnt love you youll find someone who actually cares and im sorry but it looks as if he used u your too young to be having sex because one guy saids he loves you many will say that just to get in ur pants big no no dont trust them until he shows you i dont know what to tell you but ending your life is not the answer you have so much ahead of u
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2007): I'm sorry to put this to you hun, but it really sounds as though he isn't interested in you now- and besides, if someone can treat you like that are they really worth it? You are much better than that and deserve someone who'll treat you with love and respect ALL the time. Though its gonna hurt you for a while you have to try and get yourself through this- everyone experiences heartbreak at some time. Delete his number from your phone, and texts (that always helps :]). My best advice would be to focus on getting on with your life now... you can only get stronger from this experience, and wait for the nice guys to start queuing up. Good luck xxx
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