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writes: Here is the thing. A long time ago, if my b/f and i had an argument on the phone he did not care that he was talking in front of family at home. It bothered me and i said, i like things like that private. He said fine.I call him at work (and this is awhile after i complained about above). He said he is running some wires. We talked for a few minutes and then he said someone is coming, i'm gonna go. God forbid i talk when there are people here. I really didn't get what he said by that--i laughed thinking it was the customer coming b/c he usually doesnt talk in front of them on a cell phone.Later on that night i ask, and he said it was someone who they sent to help me coming and then i said since when can't you speak if it someone at work. And he kind of laughed about how i was analyzing this so much. He said i thought you said you dont want me talkin in front of others. I really didnt get why he said that because he knows i meant when arguing. And i said that to him. A few minutes later he said you are mad and u dont think i knew what you meant? He said he just had to go, someone was coming..whats the big deal. He sounded like he was avoiding it which is me saying why couldnt he talk in front of that person(which makes me wonder was it a girl etc etc)
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reader, AngelofLove  +, writes (7 December 2006):
 Private conversations should be really face to face. Work environment is no place for this, regardless if co-worker is girl or not, he should be busy at work. If you like conversations to be private you should wait for him to get home. Face to face should make it easier to communicate without necessarily resulting into arguments.
Perhaps you are reading to much into telephone calls.
Chill out a little bit.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2006):
Are you nuts?!
A guys doesnt want to have a girlfriend discussion in front of a co-worker. They will be riding him for the rest of the afternoon. It doesnt matter how innocent you think it is- all that couples talk is great fodder for abuse.
"I love you" "no, I love you more".... He has no idea when you might bust out one of those
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reader, Nikita +, writes (7 December 2006):
 Dear Anon,
I understand what you mean but like KellyO, I think your're reading too much into this. My fiance doesnt like me phoning him at work either and vice versa because most companies frown on this unless its an emergency. Think about why you're reacting like this. has he ever given you any other signs that he might be cheating on you? If he hasn't then try and let this go and chill out and learn to trust him more okay. Take care.
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reader, kellyO +, writes (7 December 2006):
 Hi,
I think u are perhaps reading too much into it. My fiancee does that when he is at work too. He tends to rush out of the phone sometimes or stay quiet. It is in some company's policy and alot of businesses dont like their employess discussing on the phone especially if it has nothing to do with work. Time as they say is money.He can also not postpone work aspects or his duties or else he wont be effective at work.
You have to try as much as possible to just relax and enjoy your relationship. Try not to read deeper meanings into every actions. You are showing signs of lack of trust, im reading that u might have been hurt in the past before. Try not to allow ur past relationship affect the present.
Dont worry,I dont think it has anything to do with another girl.
Take care now and goodluck
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