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anonymous
writes:Me and my boyfriend have been having problems. We've been fighting all day and night because of it. I feel like I'm putting my all into our relationship (quit talking to ex's for him, tell him everyday how much he means to me, ect.) I have got nothing in return. He is NEVER sweet to me. He says that's just not him. But, I don't see how one can fall for another if they aren't sweet and loving to each other. Instead, he treats me like just another friend. I have told him many times before and he said that he was sorry and that he was trying to change and for a little while if I brought up our relationship he would be sweet to me and tell me how happy he is. But, that's not what I want. I want someone that will randomly text me and tell me how happy they are with me and whatnot. I don't wanna change the person he is because that will just make me feel bad. Plus, he always tells me change is bad. So, what do I do? Move on? It's killing me. I have such strong feelings for him, but sometimes I question it because since he doesn't express his feelings I don't really know for sure if he really likes me or not. Please help..
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (4 January 2013):
 my husband never says "I love you"
he never texts me
he never wakes me in the middle of the night to say sweet things to me
but I know he loves me.
you and the current beau are a mis-match.
you can't change him.
you can't make him be what you need and want.
you will have to end the relationship.
you may not be ready now but one day you will be.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (4 January 2013):
 Sooo, what's the "question"?????? He's pretty "ho, hum" about YOU..... whilest you, meanwhile, are doing all you can to have a "relationship" with him......
I wouldn't waste my time with this guy....
Good luck..
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reader, CMMP +, writes (4 January 2013):
You can't change him as you've seen. The only hope you have is to sit him down and tell him how you feel and that as much as you love him you don't feel emotionally satisfied with him at all. And rather than continue to complain about it only to have nothing change you'd rather just end things and find someone who's better for you and vice versa.
Either he'll see it as a wake up call and realize he's going to lose you over this and he better change for real, or you two will break up and you'll find someone who makes you feel special which is such a magical thing that everyone who wants it deserves it.
You have to be willing to commit to the break up... let him contact you and beg for you to give him a second chance.
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