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*rittany211
writes:Ok so i have been dateing this guy for a little over 3 years now and we have a 2 year old daughter. We constantly argue because i feel the need to complain about some things and he feels i shouldnt complain at all. In the past he has cheated on me with friends and random girls so now i dont trust him at all! I try but i cant bring myself to trust him and i complain about him hanging out with his guy friends that put females around him. He thinks he should be able to go out with his friends even if i dont trust him and the way i feel is if he wants to be with me and cares about me he should listen to me and not go out with the friends that i think he shouldnt hang out with. What should i do? Am i wrong? He makes me feel like im crazy! help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2008): It sounds to me like he isnt even sorry for cheating. If he was he wouldnt be hanging out with his buddies so much when he knows it upsets you. He isnt putting in any effort at all. Where is his respect for you like. To be honest this may sound harsh but if he cheated once you could forgive. (if he was really sorry) But to do it again and again!! If it was me he'd be gone!!I wouldnt blame you for being the way you are with him. He's the one who brought it all on himself. Just because he is the father of your child doesnt mean you have to put up with that s**t. I know you wont finish with him unless you really want to. So if you do stay with him give him a taste of his own medicine. Go out with sum single girlfriends and have a good flirt...just to give him a little fright. Leave him at home to babysit and see how he likes it!! Sometimes they need a good kick up the arse to make them realise what they could lose. And i dont mean that literally!!! lol.Goodluck and i wish you well.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (21 January 2008):
 You have voiced your feelings to him and if he disregards your feelings, there is not much you can do .You may not have a high regards for his friends but it is his friends which he likes to hang out with.
You have to let him have his fun with his buddies and just accept or close an eye to what is happening .
You cannot totally possess a person but you need to give him some personal freedom . Just as you would not like it if he starts to dictate your life on who or what you can do or cannot. You become a slave and have no rights. Nobody wants to be in such a situation.
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