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writes: I've recently came out of a relationship, in this time I met another boy as a friend. After my relationship ended I began to have feelings for this new friend I had met, I had been told he did too. We met a few times and got on really well, although when one of my friends joined us I felt he liked her by the way he was acting. I asked him if he did and he said he did, and then he said that he thought I had a boyfriend and liked me too. I got really confused because I didn't know how he could like us both. Then he said he felt he had ruined things and told me again he liked me. We then left things as they were, but know things seem different and awkward also I was talking to him over the internet one time and said to him that he seemed sad? he said he was bored and then said your boring, (this really upset me because I thought it must be how he felt), he said he was joking straight away and put a, : P face and said he was joking again. but I didn’t believe him (he’s done this before) its just put a low on my confidence and I’m not sure really if I should carry on bothering with him, if this is how he makes me feel already, although I don’t seem to be able to forget about him?? But im also really sensitive so don’t know if I have just taken what he said as a little joke over the top and seriously, please help
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reader, Nifer  +, writes (22 April 2007):
To be honest, I do believe that he was probably joking and since he obviously does like you, he wouldn't have wanted to hurt your feelings. If he really was that bored he wouldn't continue chatting on the internet and would have found something better to do.
As for him liking this other girl, there's no problem in that. He's single at the moment so it is allowed and since you are single too, so are you. I'm sure however, that if you do begin a relationship that he would not persuit anything with that girl and turn his entire attention to yourself.
What I don't understand is, why if you have both made it clear that you like each other, you have not started dating?! Next time he says he's bored why don't you suggest the two of you head out somewhere and have fun. Even if he hasn't said he's bored, ask him if he would like to go out somewhere, just the two of you. He will probably be thrilled as it sounds that he may be a bit shy if he has yet to ask you out properly.
Hope things work out for you both, and don't be affaid to ask him out...... It's best to ask a question and then regret it (you'll get over it), than to never ask and regret it for ever!!
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