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He threatened to hurt me, what should I do?

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Question - (25 August 2009) 4 Answers - (Newest, 25 August 2009)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

sorry-it's a bit of a long story.It started 3 years sgo-me and my boyfriend had a physical fight and I had bruises,a few days after that I started seeing him in places he should'nt have been-like near my mum's when I never took him there I kept seeing the same people on the street too and the same cars driving by again and again,some of these people were his friends,others I didn't know-anyway I started being more vigilant and it turned out that I was being followed,24/7 by him and his assosiates,they were also taking it in turns to park outside my house and watch it.I could'nt think what they could possibly want but as they seemed to want me to know I was being watched I thought it was some sort of scare tactic to make sure I didn't report him-anyway,that theory got blown out of the water cos they've never stopped,even now-I thought they were mabey trying to scare me into working for them as a prostitute as my boyfriend kept dropping hints-for instance he told me there was money in prostitution and he staged some fake phone call in front of me pretending to talk to some pimp friend about the woman he was selling(this was just for my benifit though,as I couldn't hear anyone on the other end of the phone,despite the fact that I was standing quite close.)Anyway I thought they were trying to frighten me,then it would only be a matter of time before he asked me to work.I did just wonder if they could all just be some depraved bunch of weirdos that spend all their free time stalking someone cos they enjoy it,but now I think there has to be a purpose cos last night I confronted my boyfriend about it and he said if I ever brought it up again he would do me some serious damage-why would he threaten me unless he's hiding something-if he was some mental case who just liked stalking me he wouldn't bother lying about it ,would he? by the way he isn't obsessed with me-aside from when I see him following me we only see each other once every couple of weeks.what do you think is going on-I NEED to know it's too weird and it's driving me insane,please don't just say report it cos I have barely any evidence

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A male reader, Fatherly Advice United States +, writes (25 August 2009):

Fatherly Advice agony auntYes it is too weird.

It is not OK to make you a prostitute. It is a crime.

It is not OK to talk about it.

It is not OK to hit you. It is a crime.

It is not OK to threaten you. It is a crime.

It is not OK to stalk you, it is Harassment.

So if you are not going to report it what are you going to do. You are not safe. The Police will decide whether or not there is enough evidence.

FA

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2009):

You need to report this to police and get yourself into a womans refuge. This guy will not listen to reason for gods sake do not spend another minute with him

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A female reader, kerry169 United Kingdom +, writes (25 August 2009):

kerry169 agony auntno love dont report it to the police.

if they are watching you 24/7 they will see you and could hurt you. so you could either

1. sit your boyfriend down and tell him how you feel.

2. talk to one of the ones following you. (someone that you know won't hurt you)

3.leave it and see if it sorts itslef out.

4. talk to someone you trust that won't say anything

and im soo afraid for you love i wish i could help you more.

another thing if i were you i would get out off that relationship before it is to late for you

xx

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2009):

Whoa whoa whoa... you need to ask if you should get out of this situation? Of course!

You need to report this to your family, closest friends and the police. Go to the local police station and fill out a stalking report. Most countries have laws against stalking now. If necessary you can get a restraining order if this results in a police report

End this now!

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