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writes:My boyfriend of 30 wants me to wear short skirts and tight clothes. He loves that look. I have explained to him that I dont mind wearing fitted clothes in order to show off my figure but I don't want unwanted attention from men in general. He says he is proud of me and thinks I am gorgeous so I should make the most of myself when I am with him.He likes looking at women scantily dressed and this causes a lot of rows between us and he has really made an effort not to do this anymore and I appreciate this. Is it just a look he likes or does it say more about him than I am picking up on? All my ex's have been the opposite they liked me to look classy and stylish and not reveal much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2011): I agree with maid_Marian_vetbabe. I had a similar experience with my ex but I did exactly that and wore tight clothes and short skirts. it completely changed me and other people's attitude towards me and I felt like my boyfriend was treating me like a hooker because of how I dressed. I actually ended up leaving him because I didn't want to have to change for anyone.
I ended up taking a good look at myself and thought maybe I needed to find a half way point as I'm usually always in jeans and t-shirts, and with my new partner started to do what I call the 'ying and yang'. For example - if you're wearing a short skirt/ hotpants, wear a baggy top, and if you're wearing a tight top, wear either a maxi skirt or something floaty that doesn't stick to you.
Pick out your best feature (mine are my legs) and flaunt it - that way you'll feel a bit more comfortable with it and he'll be happy too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2011): Maybe try compromising? I wear very short skirts but with thick wooly tights or black leggings and flat-heeled boots, and dont show off cleavage or midriff... Maybe you could try something like that, like reaveal a little bit in a classy way somewhere, but only what you are comfortable with!
If he likes looking at scantily clad women, then perhaps he is trying to got his "fix" from you, as he knows that you dont like him looking at other women.
Or maybe you could dress like this for him as a bit of a tease, like when you are at home just chilling out, or doing something where it doenst really matter what you look like, like the grocery store? Just some ideas, but obviously dont do anything youre not comfortable and happy with! :)
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