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30-35,
anonymous
writes:i met my boyfriend yesterday and everything was ok then this morning i woke up and he told me got to tell me the truth about him.. and he said i dont fancy you or love you i think you got a great personalilty and he would shag me but yet he still wants to be with me i do love him. what shall i do ? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2007): Truth Man - what if it was the other way around? What would you call the girl? A whore?
Anyway, to Ms. Anon 13-15, there can be a few possible reasons why he wants to have a sexual relationship with you but do not want to engage in a normalized relationship. To name a few, he might not want to be tied down at all, especially at his current age (or any age for that fact). He might have other priorities he need to do before dating anyone. Having a great personality just might mean he finds you attractive and comfortable to be friends with, and sex would be a bonus. These things can happen, especially in the adult world. It isn't unfounded. This is whether you accept it or not.
If you don't like it, don't do it. It's as simple as that. If you try to give yourself hope that he will one day fall for you and want to have a normalized relationship with you, then that's the thing. There is a risk right there of having your heart broken even further.
Just because a man or a woman want to have a sexual relationship with the commitment, it doesn't mean that person is a 'pig' or a whore. This concept really depends on each others' goals, desires, and commitment levels corresponding to their priorities.
To some aunties and uncles, this might be 'bad' advice to you, but even at your age, I rather not sugar coat my words with cherries and marshmellow sprinkles on top.
MIND you, you are at that questionable age at the moment and you have to be careful about that. Also, you might want to consider that more often than not, based on personal witness, that kids around your age tend to do things that they regret later on in life. If not regret, then possibly feel a bit tainted over time.
For example, one of my female friends had met a guy and started a non-commital relationship. They have sex every weekend, and still a great friendship. Travel a bit together, hang out with their groups of friends, but the only difference is that they don't treat each other like they will get married or anything like that. Going with the flow of things.
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reader, the truth man +, writes (23 April 2007):
What can i say about this guy apart from a dam right pig. please please open your eyes to this man he has made it so clear to you that he does not love you at all , but he says he will have sex with you .
i think you know your worth more than that if your only after sex the same as him then you have found the right guy for you but if your looking for love please move on and get rid of him asap don't allow him to use you or your body in this way have respect for yourself and find a guy he will love you and want you for you not just for sex.
Take care
The truth man
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