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*heela1974
writes:My boyfriend of 3 years suggested I move in with him. This surprised me because I was convinced we were dating this long because we were not living together - we often stated to each other and to others that we have it made because of this arrangement. Fear and elation... I quickly barraged him with "what about my house? I need a room that says ME... what about this, what about that......" he answered with quick solutions. I fear projected resentments: I have the steady income, he is self-employed. He jokes that he can do his hobbies more if I moved in. That makes me cringe. Am I over-analyzing?
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reader, sheela1974 +, writes (11 December 2009):
sheela1974 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUpdate: I cornered him with the nagging questions I had; "Is this about money? Is this about bills getting paid so you can do your hobbies more often?..." He stated he intends to continue to pay the bills, and would like me to be in charge of grocery shopping. I asked "why the shift" - he replied "remember our conversation a while ago about not intending to be alone for the rest of our lives?" Ooohhhh.
Thank you, ASK OLDER SISTER, for responding.
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