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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Dear Sir/Madam,i have been dating a man for a few months and now he suddenly stopped calling me and meeting me, but i really love him and once i sms him but he never give me reply..i dont what happened to him, do you think i should call him. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2008): No, you shouldn't. You know why? Because you already know that you will get the answer you know already. He isn't into you. And it's OK and there is NOTHING wrong with YOU! I am in the same boat. And although we've dated for almost 3 months and I've met all his close friends, as I look back, he never gave of himself emotionally or invested in me. I'm strong enough and feel so good that I have the power. I choose who I want to be with and I don't want to be with a man who doesn't call, text or email me and keeps me waiting and in the dark. There is a man out there for you, for me, where things will just fall into place and there will not be any mystery or any heartache!
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2007): No do not call him. He has lost interest. As women we often feel that we need closure but we have to give ourselves closure & accept the fact that the man has lost interest. I got an email recently that I think explains it all....
IF A MAN WANTS YOU
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve
then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself
a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant,
Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has
more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
Oh Lord!? If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships..........there is nothing cute about
baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists
of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your
always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
Share this with other ladies..... You'll make someone SMILE, another
RETHINK her choices, and another woman PREPARE.
They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate
them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.
Pass this on to at least 10 women and 5 men.
BY THE WAY, THIS WAS WRITTEN BY A MAN, SO TAKE A HINT..............
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2007): Just be light and relaxed. You're just calling to say hello, how are you sort of thing, and take it from there. You could say its been a while since you heard from him, but see how he responds to hi, how are you, first.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFirstly thank you so much for all who answered my question.
when i call him what should i be talking about?
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2007): OOps! I meant to say you should punch in *67 (star 67) before putting in his phone number, NOT #67!!! if you don't want your number to show up on his caller ID.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2007): Call him on the phone. I would recommend you dial #67 first so that your number does not show up on his caller ID.
If he picks up and is happy to hear from you, all well and good. If he acts off-hand and doesn't seem interested in having a conversation or seeing you again, well, that's another story.
If you get his voice mail, I'd also recommend that you NOT leave a message, but try him again another time and see if you can speak to him in person.
I wouldn't send an sms or text or email if I were you.
Good luck!
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2007): of course, if he do not call. call him
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