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*herrie pie
writes:me and my boyfriend have almost been together for 2 months, we are so close and comeftable together it is so right i now belive in love ther is 2 years 9 months diffrence. when we first got together he wasn't too keen om my age and im a 15 year old vigin and he is soon to be a 18 year old virgin. once he started accepting my age he said he thought it was time for us to go further and because i love him i thourght so two, but we didn't because i am so tight we had difficulty. he has changed his mind about it so much and after we tried he told me he didn't want to no more. do you think i've done something wrong?how do i ask him about this?thanks for any replys cherrie pie x Reply to this Question
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reader, Pinkpies +, writes (7 July 2010):
Just noticed you have only been together for 2 months!
I think you should stop stressing yourselves out about trying to have sex too soon, and just enjoy kissing for a while!
I personally think you should wait at least 6 months before pushing to do it - and then, only if you and your body feel really ready. The less you rush it, the better it will be when it happens.
You've not dome anything wrong, you both just need to slow down.
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reader, Pinkpies +, writes (7 July 2010):
Yes it is against the law - but what's more important is if you are ready.
You said your bf said it was time to do it. Only do it if you feel you really want to. By the sounds of things, I don't think you are ready.
In terms of sleeping with someone, when it comes to it, you need to be really comfortable with someone - you need to work your way through 'the bases' at a speed that suits you. Don't push yourself to go further if you feel nervous.
Every woman needs a good amount of foreplay before trying to sleep with someone. You need to be comfortable with stuff like fingers etc, before pushing to go any further.
Don't rush it! Start with stuff with your clothes on, and do that for a few weeks before even thinking about hands up tops etc. Then when you really want to maybe go a bit further, just go a tiny bit further for a while. It's much better to take a long time, just going a tiny bit further, only when you are truely ready.
There is no time span for when you should be ready. You will know when you are - and if your not sure, it means your not ready.
As soon as you rush things, you will get nervous - the lady bits tend to tighten up when you get nervous. This is why it's important to do things slowly over time, to build up your confidence.
(Maybe a bit crude.... but I wish people had told me this stuff when I was young!!)
:)
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (7 July 2010):
 In the UK, the LEGAL age of consent is 16.
This means that until you ARE 16, it is ILLEGAL to have sex. At 15, any form of sexual contact is technically classed as RAPE - including oral sex, fingering, handjobs, penetration of the vagina or anus.
This can be punishable by upto 2 years in JAIL.
Now these laws are not there to stop teenagers having fun. They are in fact there to protect a growing child (thats you) because your body is not fully formed, and is not ready for activities such as sex.
People develop in different ways and take different times to do it. It sounds like yours just isnt ready for this yet. Listen to it - you could do yourself more damage than you know.
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reader, cherrie pie +, writes (7 July 2010):
cherrie pie is verified as being by the original poster of the question what do i do ? x
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