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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I was seeing a guy last year for a few months, he always talked to my best friend and she told me how he will always be crazy about me.. Recently we've seen a lot of each other because he's friends with my friends, we talked one day about how we he would just stare at me everytime he saw me, and would never say hi or anything. I told him how I've always wanted him as my friend but he took it the wrong way and said just friends it is then. We slept together a few times a few months ago. But I found out that recently he has been sleeping with my best friend. He can be so rude to me sometimes and act as if he doesn't give a crap about me, but then other times he just plays with my head and will stare at me and says the cutest things. He is now dating one of my other friends. Its really frusterating because we are so much alike and I feel like that is making us fall apart even more. I have no idea how to feel about this situation or what to do about it either especially because its really hard to talk to him about things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2011): Well, you are willing to sleep with guys without being in a relationship with them. You shouldn't be surprised when this happens.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2011): From the sounds of it, I think you should let it go. Even if the guy does turn around and commit to you, wouldn't you have some resentment built up from him sleeping around with your friends? You said his actions are making you guys "fall apart even more". But the thing is, the moment he slept with your best friend, he compromised and pretty much messed up any healthy relationship you two can have together.
Relationships shouldn't start out like this, and healthy ones generally don't. You guys are not nurturing commitment, trust, and mutually loving relations. He is however undermining your trust, faith, and messing with your head. Get out and find someone who will treat you like a queen (they do exist). Good luck!
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