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writes: HeartbrokenI have just broken up with my boyfriend of one year. We have had our ups and downs this last while and we seem to spend less and less time together, but the end was for me when I went to lift him and his friend at the local bar where they had been all day and on the way home he was talking about a weekend away which had been planned and about a person he wanted to go which i didnt, I didnt speak and just looked at him, he then shouted several times and told me to F*** Up!!! All this infront of his friend. I ask him to apologise and he refused. He then told me go home to F*** that he and his friend was going to his place. I lost my temper and shouted at him and told him I was cancelling the weekend and our holiday which we are due to go in July.Since then I havent heard from him until today when I sent him a text telling him I didnt want us to fall out and we always promised we would stay friends in we finished. He texted back and said and ask me throw my key to his house in his letterbox today.I am heartbroken as this is the man I planned to stay with for the rest of my life and we have discussed marriage etc. I cant understand why he hasnt apologised or even ask to talk, does he not care for me anymore and why does he not seem to be in the slightest bit bothered????
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2006): Adding to Shania's good assessment, I want to put in my two cent's here. I'm trying to understand 'why' you would want a man who degrades, embarrasses and humiliates you? Somehow, in your skewed manner of thinking, you have convinced yourself, he is lovable and he needs your love. No, he's doesn't! Here's a tip-when a real man wants and loves a woman, they cherish her and they will do the work of keeping the relationship together. He's not doing this. So what in a nutshell, does that tell you? He's moved on, his heart is no longer into this. And you need to move on, as well. The sooner you accept this, the sooner you can recover from this man's horrid treatment of you, the sooner you can get out there and live again. The problem I see with so many wonderful young women like yourself, is they convince themselves they have an ideal guy in mind, and they refuse to move away from that mindset. They go into denial, they don't pay attention to who they really are and what's really happening around them. This is you, dear. Re-read your posting. The man treats you like a chunk of garbage and then at the end, you say you want to marry him? As far as I'm concerned, he did you a huge favor. Now give those keys back. And be grateful you are done with this jerk. No friendship-no nothing. GO cold turkey. You will get through this...you will flourish, you will mature and you will say to yourself, in a few years "what on earth was I thinking?" Your longing for this 'moronic zero' will someday, turn into a special fondness for men who are kind and responsible. Take what you have learned from this...and treat yourself well and never permit this bad treatment again.
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reader, shania  +, writes (29 March 2006):
 You are better off without him.He is rude,arrognant,self centred moron.....why are you apologising to him....or asking him to still stay friends? He has made it clear in front of his mate that he does'nt care about you,doesn't want to go on holiday unless his friend is invited and since then...he has demanded his keys back.You are well rid of him....this man is a nasty piece of goods who wants his own way.Dont contact him....he is a waste of space with violent outbursts,walk away and meet someone else who will love you,respect you and wants to be with you.
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