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writes:Should i leave my boyfriend?. My boyfriend told me last night that he come over today while i did a pregnancy test. He text me earlier today, asking if i was going to have the baby, and i said yes. He also said that he would come over at 1.00pm, but he didnt turn up. He sent me a text just now ( at 8.15pm ) saying " I love you but i'm drunk at the moment. Missing you, love you always ". I know it was nice of him to say that he misses me and loves me, but i'm annoyed that he didnt turn up today. Finding out whether i am pregnant or not should be his top priority, not getting drunk!. Should i leave him?. He is reliable most of the time ( he came over here almost every day last week, except for one day ). He gets drunk everytime he gets paid though. This worries me, especially since we might be having a child. I even told him that this should be his top priority, but he obviously hasnt listened. I haven't replied to his last text yet.
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (28 March 2013):
forget him for now. focus on finding out whether you are pregnant or not, as he will be a deadbeat in any case
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (27 March 2013):
 so your boyfriend is a binge drinker... that's alcoholism.
the fact that he wasn't with you to watch you POAS (which btw don't you have to do it on the first morning pee?) is rather inconsequential to the fact that you may be having a baby with a man who is destroying his brain with alcohol on a regular basis.
YOU want this man around your child?
you want to have a child with a man who is so irresponsible?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2013): You have found some problems that you have with your boyfriend. For example, he gets drunk a lot, and he wasn't reliable over something important. That sounds legitimate.Your response to these problems is to wonder about whether you should leave him or not. This means there are really two different problems. The first side are the problems you have with your boyfriend's behaviour. The second issue is that when a problem comes up in your relationship, you think about leaving, rather than thinking about talking to him about the problems you have. All relationships have problems that come up, there will be things you don't like. You don't have to accept those things, but if a relationship is going to work, you are going to have to make an effort to fix problems, and find ways to make things right. This often involves confronting your partner, being able to talk about things that are difficult to talk about. You might feel you need to ask things from him that you don't think he will do, or are afraid he can't do, even though you need those things to be done in order for things to be ok. But you have to try. Speak to your partner and tell him what you are not happy with. If you can't do that, your relationship is not going to work. If you tell him everything that you are concerned about, and he doesn't agree, or he says yes but then over time he doesn't change, you will then have to decide whether you want to continue the relationship or not, but at least then you know you have made an effort to make the relationship work and make things right. Good luck.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (27 March 2013):
What does "this should be his top priority" even mean?
You think he shouldn't do anything until he finds out for what reason? Just tell him when you see him and don't worry about such minor things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2013): So, are you pregnant or not? You told him you were having a baby, but you don't seem to know whether you are or aren't.
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