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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey, I hope you guys can help. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 months and he really is amazing. We love each other there is no doubt about it. There is just something bothering me.. It's like he puts friends and sports before.. Now don't get me wrong I like to have time with my friends etc too but the sports is really taking over things. For example, I recently got home from holidays and had to cancel plans I had to see him the next day as he was going on a sports weekend he didn't tell me about. I was cancelled on during the day recently, and when I suggested meeting up at night,we couldn't as, you guessed it, there was a match on. To make it up to me as he said he'd like to do I suggested a film that I'd love to see but he said he wasn't sitting through it and that he'd pick his own way to make it up to me. We also had plans to do something tomorrow night but now he is having a boys night in. When I suggested I could join he was hesitent. Am I overreacting? Please help!!! Thanks guys x Reply to this Question
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reader, love.lover.heartbreaker.brokenhearted.  +, writes (12 July 2010):
 Sports and friends are great things to have in your life. They improve your quality of life emensly. but I do understand how they could take over. You aren't overreacting, you have plenty of reasons to be concerned about the situation. I would suggest confronting him about it. talk to him and ask him to make some time for him. But a very important part in this is supporting him in the sports he loves. Make an effort to watch a match or two with him. Maybe suggest a fun sports day with friends (both males and females)be involved in what he loves. And help him to see your side of things and talk to him about making more of an effort in planning some time for just the two or you. But stay positive and confront him with a positive atitude and a positivfe presence.
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