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female
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30-35,
*urimi
writes: I met someone recently and it seemed mutual that we were both hitting it off. Looking back at the beginning when we first started texting, the messages seemed more fluid and open between us. Currently they don't look or feel the same. Even though we still speak daily, unlike before it doesn't feel like he wants to talk as much anymore. Although he doesn't say so, he doesn't encourage me to speak to him the way he used to. In the past he'd openly ask or beg to keep talking and now it feels like he could care less if I continued or didn't. It's to the point now where he doesn't wanna answer any questions from me and it hurts because I feel since it's still early on and we have more to learn about one another. I also haven't seen him in person for about two weeks and every time I've tried it's like the plans would just fall through each time. I wish things would go back to the way things were where the energy felt more positive and encouraging. Is there a way that this can be fixed or is this a lost cause.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (21 April 2016):
I agree with honeypie, if you feel he is not making much off an effort any more well then don't write to him, allow him to contact you, if he doesn't well it shows that he has lost interest but just does not know how to tell you.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (21 April 2016):
I think the issue is, that you somehow expect to carry on a friendship or relationship via text. It's not realistic.
If I were you I'd pull back and GIVE him the chance to step up. If he does, I'd say start planning some dates or outings face to face. IF he doesn't, well at least you know not to waste any more time on it.
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