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writes:Hi,I am simply seeking an outside opinion to a situation with my boyfriend. My boyfriend has a friend that I have yet to meet in person but I have had the opportunity to witness communication via yahoo chat between the two of them and find the guy to be a bit of an idiot based on what I have read.While sitting there I read while he was talking with my boyfriend a comment made that he (my boyfriends friend) was going to go throw a fuck into me. Personally I was turned off with this guy immediately but also disappointed that my boyfriend did not stand up and say that it was inappropriate to say that. As time went on I would see how the guy would offer negative comments about our relationship and try to get my boyfriend to go out to bars without me etc.I have spoken with my boyfriend and he suggests that all guys are like this; I disagree. He feels ok about not saying anything to the guy and continues to make plans with him and feels I should just suck it up. Am I making too much of this situation? I feel as though my feelings are being pushed aside but I am told that I am selfish. What is the happy medium in this situation? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2009): I agree- inappropraite and all guys are NOT that way. I'd never say anything like that to any of my freinds. Some of them have very cute wives (a couple I might have a fantasy about- but NEVER express), but I'd NEVER make anykind of a joke about it... 100% out of line.He needs to honor your request about this guy. Now, I do have a freind (and he's a freind of my wife too) who is awkward around women. He's 35, we're late 40's, and his dad dies when he was very young. He was raised by his mom and 3 older sisters and has NO father figure and NO idea how to treat women (and as a result tends to treat them like guys... which leads to few second dates). He'd never make a suggestive remark to my wife, but does ask the occasional awkward question- but it's simply becasue he's never had anyone to ask before... so there are folks out there who don't know how to behave, but they can learn.
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