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writes: im in a relationship and my partner wants for us to get married one day but i asked if he was ready now and he said not yet because he has a gut feeling inside about it and i was wondering what or how should i feel about it because im thinking that maybe he is just saying it to make me happy. Reply to this Question
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reader, Jadzia1127  +, writes (7 August 2006):
 If this conversation of marriage has come up in the first few months of your dating then you are pushing it. If this after a year of dating and he hasn't proposed because of a gut feeling then get your own gut feeling that he isn't going to.
Statistically men who are going to propose will do so in the first or second year. After that the comfort of the relationship sets in and they have to be trapped into marriage and no one wants to feel trapped.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2006): If it is because the relationship is less than a year or two years old he may need time to get stability and settle from the early flutters into how life would be long term. some people desperately want to jump into marriage (stupid int he moment lack of foresight), some want to wait until they know the person well and some are commitment phobes who will placate others to their advantage. If you are together four years or more then is probably bullcrap, 2 -4 maybe either way,andless than two probably truthfull( you cannot know a person well in less than a year and only slightly well in 2. this is because time is needed to see how people react in different situations over time and to look for their consistencies. given that you will (hopefully) be spending a life time together it is of extreme importance that you know the person inside out. At any rate the case requires more details from you for me to give a relativly accurate answer (you have given few details suggesting this is a newish relationship or that you expect others to psychicly know them over the net-i wish i was psychic!). also you determine how you feel but i wouldnt let feelings guide my better judgement due to their fickle vague nature- exercise logic even if you dont like doing it.
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