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writes:I'm seperated from my partner for 8months and we've got 2 children together who are living with me. The children have said to him several times that they want us to come back but he said 'NO'. I've not had sex since then and i want to with him. He sometimes come to my house and he eats and we also talk about the children.He takes the children out to cinemas and i'm always there with them because he pays for it.Everytime i try to hug him,talk to him about us, he pushes me away and tells me to move on.I've apologised to him and said sweet words to him but he's still not bulging. What should i do with my life? I'm also worried that he may decide oneday to sleep with me and that is why i'm trying not to sleep with anyone yet. What should i do because i don't know if there's still hope. Pls, can you reply me asap as i'm very upset.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2012): You need to move on and treat this like he's not coming back. Why did you guys break up?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2012): I am sorry, but his mind is made up. As long as you cling to the idea he will come back you will never move on and get over him.
Its good he's there for the children but it isn't helping you having him there for meals.Or joining them on outings. Eventually when you have got over this man it may be possible to share this time with him and the children, but not yet.
You really do need to talk to somebody, friends,family or a professional..its time to let go of him and the idea you may reconcile, it is not going to happen and you need to come to terms with it.
Good luck xxxx
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reader, delightful84 +, writes (17 February 2012):
There is not a lot of background to go off. Whether he comes back or not, who knows? What exactly caused the split? Knowing that may be more helpful.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (17 February 2012):
 You need to let go the idea that he's coming back.
the only reason he's having contact with you is for the children.
HE may DECIDE to sleep with you... do you NOT have any say in this?
I think you need to accept that he does not want to be with you and that he's done... time to let him go and move on
I think you need therapy to help you cope. or at least a woman's support group.
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reader, bronzed adonis +, writes (17 February 2012):
 It could all depend on what caused you to break up?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2012): PLEASE move on! He doesn't want u and u are simply throwing away your chances of meeting someone else.
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