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writes:The man I love has wounded me very deeply. He says that I don't yell at him for not earning more money!Money has become a big issue for him lately because he was laid off from his highest earning job. He has other, very fulfilling (I think) work, which he could perhaps expand. His higher-paying job drove him crazy. I DO encourage him in every way I can to pursue new jobs that he finds, but I don't yell at him for not having more money. I support myself, but just barely, and we're not married, so what right do I have to yell at him for not making a heap of money? Also, it is not in my nature to yell at a man I love.What is the psychology here? Please help!Wounded
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2011): This is the o.p. -- Thank you so much, aunt honesty, for your insight and intelligent understanding, which has helped me!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (26 April 2011):
 His self esteem has hit rock bottom and he is on the border line of becoming depressed if he keeps going the way he is. He lost his high paying job and his life went in to turmoil. He was in a routine of having a lot of money and being able to spend it on things that you both wanted. Now after he has lost his high paying job he feels that you may not want him now as much as you did or that he is not enough of a man to support you anymore.
You need to just keep encouraging him that you dont need any more money that what you have and that it is happiness and health that is the most important not money. Just keep reminding him that you love him, that you are happy and that you want to be with him.
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