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*ella202287
writes:so far now ive been dating this guy about 5 months and we kinda had a fight about all his i love yous hes said to me. He was very shy at first and still five months later hes still shy about saying it. he was the one to even bring it up in the first place so many times. like last night at his house we were watching tv and he always says stuff about how im his soul mate and how he wants to be with me forever he already asked me to live with him. so we were cuddling and i was on top of him kissing him and i said im going to take good care of you for the rest of your life. n he looked kinda caught of gaurd and he said forever? and i made a joke to like cover it up that i said for the rest of his life. and he was laughing and said oh baby im sorry i didnt know what you were joking about. and i said baby its okay you dont need to make some scary commitment to me and he replied back to that by saying baby i love you so much. So i was like confused cuz i was like wondering if he only said that because he thought maybe he made me feel bad or if he really meant it. and later on in the evening we were maknig love and he said when i was on top of him i love you so much. i think i ? it so much cuz hes always says i love you at the weirdest times or if not that hes still so shy about it 5 months later. Thank you in advance if anyone gives me advice.
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reader, sammi star  +, writes (22 December 2010):
 It's understandable that you don't want to think you have to be perfect in order for him to love you. That's an impossible thing to live up to!
I think that believing him when he tells you he loves you will come with time because it takes so much more than words. When you've been together for a longer time you'll be able to notice more and more of the things he does and the way he acts that let you know he really feels that way for you.
Good luck :)
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reader, bella202287 +, writes (22 December 2010):
bella202287 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you i think the reason i am so fixated on it is because im very scared of getting hurt i really do love this man alot and never felt this way before ever. ive been in relationships before but i never felt like this. I know it was fast for him to say it thats y in the first place i never said anything back when he would say it so many times. The most recent time i remember was that i was having a really bad day and i did bite his head of alot about lil thing that pissed me off about him and he tried to with draw his feelings cuz i was mean. so i dont want to have to worry every time im not perfect he wont love me. hes since explained to me that i scared him. and we talked things out and he explained to me how he really felt. i guess im having a hard time of believing him. and that might be my prob
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reader, sammi star +, writes (22 December 2010):
It doesn't matter when he says it. In fact actions speak louder than words but seeing as you're so fixated on the timing of his 'i love yous' then I really would advise you to stop thinking so much into it. So he said I love you during sex? so what?? People are full of emotions at that time and it's lovely that he felt able to say it to you.
Being shy about saying it after 5 months is no big deal either. Let him take it slowly, most men probably wouldn't have said it all after such a short time!
Just take things slowly and don't read into every little thing he says (or when he says it!)
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