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writes:I met a guy over the summer while we were both vacationing. We kept in touch and he has visited me since then every other weekend and sometimes those in between. Although he lives in the next state over we keep in contact daily have great conversation and love to have fun. I guess our fun has gotten out of hand because now I’m 6 weeks pregnant. We both have our degrees and work in our chosen careers. When I found out about my pregnancy initially I took full responsibility and decided I was going to be a mother but once I told him I heard nothing but doubt in his voice. He pulled the we aren’t even together and where his child going to live. We never had the conversation because we didn’t think anything like this was going to happen. I don’t want an abortion because mature enough to handle this situation and I have a support system behind me. Neither of us have children but I don’t want to have a child with someone who doesn’t want my child. He such a contradiction because he says he will support me in what I decide, but at the same time he wants me to consider abortion.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (3 January 2015):
 I think as long as you can take care of the child BY yourself as a SINGLE mother, you should follow your HEART and have the child.
Neither of you might have wanted a baby, but.. there it is. It's EASY for a guy to say, I think abortion is the best option. They don't have to go through the emotional roller coaster that is the WHOLE abortion, from doctor appointment to procedure to ALL the guilt and suffer after wards. NONE of that do the GUYS really go through. Now they MAY feel bad that they knocked the girl up, but the PHYSICAL and EMOTIONAL trauma is essentially 100% on the mother.
When he says he will support you, I think he will - financially. But I really don't see him doing much more then that. So be prepared.
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reader, Sincerely Yours +, writes (3 January 2015):
 He may have doubt in his voice and he may ask you to consider abortion, but he's stated he will support you either way so I wouldn't question it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2015): Is your BF really "pushing"? Or is he DISAGREEING with you, and that is making you feel pressured by itself? I think I detect more of the latter in your question.
You have every right to make the final decision. It sounds like your BF is respecting that. You say he is willing to support your choice even if its not his. IMO that's all you can ask of anyone in his shoes.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (3 January 2015):
I can tell you are going to be a great mom...why?? You are already thinking of your child's well being before your own.
I do not believe in abortion...why?? How would anyone feel if they knew their mother or parents considered killing them before they were born??
We are not animals... If you can not walk and run after three hours like the rest of us...oh well, sucks to be you.
Plus... No man has the right to tell a mother what to do with her child...why?? Who told his mother to let him live???
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