A
female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:Hi all, I have been dating a lovely man for the last couple of months. He has treated me well, and we have a lovely time when we are together., We have been on holiday together 9 at his suggestion) ,been to lovely restaurants and he has done everything he can to make me feel happy. The problem is this. I am mostly always the one who has to initiate the dates etc, and ask him to come over.I spoke to him about this at the beggining, and he said he does not like to impose on me, and when he does call or text, and I ask him to come over - he just comes and is happy to see me. The thing is, I am wondering if it should be like this two months on. How can he stil be shy or whatever after this long? or is he just not that interested? Should I talk to him about it? Thanks = :o)
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (20 July 2010):
 I think this man probably lacks the self confidence in relationship situations to take charge of proceedings. Maybe he has experience of personal rejection or social anxiety that makes him reluctant to impose himself on you. It sounds like he is keen if he goes on holidays and dates with you. It maybe just the case that you have to be in control and keep asking him out. I think it is a minor shortcoming. If you have a good time when you go out then just take this relationship for what it is.
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