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anonymous
writes:i have been goin out with this guy for 5-6 months now and he tells me the truth about everything and doesnt lie to me.BUT DOES HE? thats what i cant get out of my head because ive been hurt before its hard to trust but it just feels like that he does lie but he is so good at it that i dont know.It tearing me up im pregnant aswell so hormones are worse then before what do i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2007): Do you have any SPECIFIC reason to think your bf might be lying to you? If so, what?The safest rule of thumb is to assume that a person is telling the truth UNLESS there is a solid, cast-iron reason to think they are not. This as opposed to feeling a little paranoid and untrusting and literally pulling "reasons" out of thin air!And for you, its harder because you've been hurt in the past, and now being pregnant your hormones are working overtime.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (26 February 2007):
 Relax! Probably your boyfriend isn't honest with you all the time but you need to trust him that when it's important that he's honest that he will be. For instance maybe you've been sick through your pregnancy and told him you think you look a mess, only for him to say you look beautiful or something similar. Well chances are, that after several rounds of vomiting you didn't look as super hot as normal but would you want him to tell you that? No! Some lies are good. You just need to believe that when it comes down to the important things he's truthful.
CD
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2007): That question holds very little accuracy. It's like asking, "Are all women good mothers?"
NO ONE here can answer this question for you. This is something only you can gauge on your own. We don't know anything about your bf, his habits, his character, his upbringing, his ideals, visions, beliefs, his past, his experiences, and basically all the combinations of flow, interaction, and reaction/action.
In short, everyone whom has been hurt before go through a very similar paranoia. It's a given. Coupled with your wild hormones, any little miniscule thing can be blown up big.
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