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female
age
36-40,
*omof1
writes:I met someone through friends about 8 months ago. We started with simply text messages and a couple phone calls and I really liked him. We wanted to same things out of a relationship and life. He seemed perfect. We decided to take things slow because I told him I had a fear of being hurt again. We hung out talked went out to eat it was great. Long story short he decided we had started moving too fast and it was best we go back to being friends. But he was still calling and texting like we had been and we even spent nights together still(yes still had sex). Still went to get togethers and parties together. He says I'm his best friend and he knows I'll do anything for him. Now he has a girlfriend (yes I'm jealous) and we stopped hanging out for a long time. He called last night and asked if I'd come see him so I did. We talked even laid with each other and watched tv (didn't have sex) when I left he text me and said he wasd sorry he didn't kiss me or hold me that he really wanted to but couldn't because he has a girlfriend(I didn't expect him to anyways) yes I love him and he knows I do but he says we are too close to have a relationship with me like that and that he loves me but not like I love him. I don't know what to do should I give up on him or be patient and wait. HELP!!!
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (28 January 2011):
 He doesn't make any sense. You don't make sense either. Even if readers here tell you to leave him alone, you would still spend time with him. You like a challenge. As much as I hate saying this, he likes the idea of the chase. He knows you would do anything for him so he lost the point of pursuing you. I want to let you know not all guys are like that, like after you had sex with him then all the mystery is gone. Sex is sex you have it because your body wants it and not because you want attention or you do it to get a relationship. It's your choice to be patient. He may or may not leave his girlfriend for you. His girlfriend may feel jealous that he thinks you are his best friend. Keep your cool and let them crash and burn. You created that passion together first. If it's too hard for you to be patient just start over with a guy who's clear about what he wants. It looks like to me he's diverting his attention because it's too scary to pour all his love on one woman. You can be patient but at the same time look for other men. Once he knows that he can lose you to some guy it will more likely provoke his instinct to chase you again.
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