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writes:So there's this guy and I really like him. I have been waiting for him to ask me out for the past 4-5 weeks and I really like him as Ii said. He says he is going to ask me out but then the day before he says he forgot what he was going to say to me the next day or he says that he has forgotten the day he was gonna ask me.I really love him and I don't know what to do... it's really bugging me and when I was takling to him about it he said "And what if you can't have me?" and I was like well I'd just have to live with that, then he said not to get mad and I mean I wasn't, but I would be upset after hearing a guy say he was going to ask me out for like 4-5 weeks then say that, how else am I meant to feel??What should I do about this?? Reply to this Question
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reader, jakaherbie  +, writes (4 January 2009):
 my heart goes out to you...sometimes guy's especially young guys (teens) can be really insensitive to the feelings of others.I find it very strange that he told you he was going to ask you out...normally when that's an option guy's just do it, they don't tell you first that they will do on a certain day.I don't think you will like my advice or want to take it but well personally I think the best thing you can do is stop focussing on him and see the millions of other great guys out there who would love the chance to be with you if only they thought you'd say yes.As a teenager I've been in similar situations myself, I won't say it doesn't hurt because I know it hurts like hell.But it seems to me that you have made it 100% clear to this guy how you feel about him, and I think maybe he enjoys that he has that hold over you, so is playing a game with your affections.The best thing you can do... the very best thing...would be to try and advoid him as much as possible, find a new group of friends to go out with, met new people, smile even when you don't feel like it...and don't open your heart to him again.I have a sneaky feeling if you do this he may well make a point of not leaving you alone as he will be wondering just what is happening with you and why you don't seem to want him any more.The thing to remember is guys (of all ages) have a thing called an ego and what you have been doing so far has really been making his ego feel good, so STOP...why should he feel good by making you feel bad? you are worth so much more than that!Find yourself someone who wants to be with you just beacuse you are you, and makes you feel as good as you make him feel.All the best :)
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