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26-29,
*arliee
writes:This guy named Matt has been my boyfriend for nearly 6 months(since april 7th). I always ask him if he loves me or likes other girls. I always heard about him flirting with other girls. We always do stuff, except for sex. But then last day he dumped me(on the phone) for keep asking stuffs like that. He said he had enough of it. I asked if he still have feelings for me, he said no. I slit my wrist and showed it to him. He begged not to kill myself cos he cares about me heaps and heaps. He said if I did another one again he would never go out with me cos its "sick". I asked him to give me a second chance and is it alright to go out with him again. He said yes and will think about it and give him a time to think about it. I told him not to tell anyone about it, cos it'll hurt. I heard that he was crying too and couldn't call me cos he's too nervous.The next day we've been texting and I asked him if he likes me still. He said "a bit". He puts "i love you xoxo" at the end of his messages. Obviously, i sent it back to him cos i really do love him. I asked him how much he loves me by percent, he said 65% or 75%. I tried to tell him all the stuff I sacrificed for him and our memories together. He said it hurts him and feel like "shit" when I told him those stuff I sacrificed for him. I dunno if he loves me still. I want him to come back to me. then he said if "I make him like me more" than he does now, he'll ask me out. I tried all my best. We decided that I should come to his house and make out etc. Then he said he might ask me out. But like when I ask if he loves me still, he said "a bit, can't tell yet and dunno". I promised him not to tell or ask stuffs if he likes me still etc.This is my questions:1) How would you make a guy like you more than he does now? or make him come back to you?2) Should I give up and move on or just wait for him?3) How'd you know if he loves me still? like 100%?4) I dunno what to do?And I asked a guy friend about this he said just leave him alone for a while until he changes his mind. I wouldnt want to bring up all those bad stuffs cos i know it would make him less like me. So i just stick up with good stuffs to talk with him.I cried everytime I think about him and stuffs we always do. We're really good best friends and get on heaps good. The one problem is I can't stop my jealousy and it hurts him.
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reader, nezza351  +, writes (5 October 2008):
honey i feel your pain. but you have got to move on from him. A friend of mine had his girlfriend hold a knife to her chest on webcam when he said he was leaving her. All it did was make them carry on a relationship that he didnt want. he cheated on her an they both ended up resenting each other eventually. I know how much love hurts im 15 after all. delete his number, try to keep away from him for a bit. calm down think objectively and eventually when he sees you have moved on he may be back or maybe you could just be friends for a bit? because tbh hes staying with you through duty because he doesnt want you to do anything stupid. i know that wasn't what you wanted to hear. good luck hun xoxoxoox
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reader, shandygirl  +, writes (5 October 2008):
 Honey, you have Matt up on a pedestal, as though he is a god. Stop for a second, pretend that this is going on with a girlfreind of yours, and think about what type of advise you would give to her.
You say that you slit your wrists? WHY? You have a family who loves you, think of how it would devistate them if something were to happen to you. You do love your family... don't you? Don't HURT yourself for ANY guy.
You are sooo young, though you may not think so. You have your whole life ahead of you, and you will have plenty more boyfriends as life goes on. He is not the only guy in the world. There are lots of cute guys out there. You don't see it, because you are obsessed with Matt.
I say.... move on. Occupy yourself with other friends, family, hobbies and interest. Because there is more to life... than this GUY.
Take Care xxx
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