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*addenedwife88
writes:I have been with my husband since i was 15. we have been togethor for 5 years. and married for 1 year. we have 2 children. a 3 year old and a 6 month old. we have been through alot together. after a huge fight last year we were able to patch things up. however after the birth of our second child we have been having issues. i have been trying to get the IUD but its taking so long. everytime we have sex its a pain becasue i know i dont to get pregnant again. i tell him to get a condom and at first it was ok. but then i guess it was annoying him. i offered to buy spermicide foam but with the holidays i just didnt have enough money. just yesterday we starting having sex and i told him to get a condom. no lie it felt great but the thought of being pregnant again scared the crap out of me. so i gently asked him to get the condom and he refused and it got to the point where he was getting very aggressive and i had to scream at thim to ge the condom. i wanted to enjoy but he was being rediculous. then when he did get the condom he got really pissed and said forget it. then told me " i dont care i dont have to have sex with you!" i dont understand why he said that. i have been giving it to him but until i get the IUD i have been refraining from doing it every day like we used to to. you would figure he would be satisfied considering i gave it to him almost everyday. today he woke up mean and called me a b*#$! then in the Drivers license center he said in front of many people that he wanted a divorce. what can i do to show my husband that i love him and really need him to understand what im going through?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2010): It sure is nice of you to give it to him when he wants it. Why don't you solve all your problems and just get him a blow up doll and then he won't have to bother you anymore. Sounds like he won't know the difference! This entire female attitude is rather sad. Try being a partner instead of a recepticle. Codoms suck since you can't fill anything so tell him to go get fixed.
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reader, 127508 +, writes (31 December 2009):
 DUMP THAT LOSER!!!
if he is so stuck up that he cant let his own girl make a decision on wether or not she wants to potentionally give her:
*body
*time
*and attention
then he needs to get a life, and A NEW GIRL!
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reader, Brooklyngirl +, writes (31 December 2009):
 My advice would be to call his bluff and agree to a divorce! He said that to hurt you (which I'm sure it did!) He is acting like an immature,irresponsible, brat!
You are being responsible, in trying to prevent another pregnancy.
You are not being unreasonable to request a condom for the time being.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2009): the guy sounds like a jackass...my advise is to dump the jerk before you spends years with him and live with regret later...
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (31 December 2009):
 Could you possibly use another form of birth control until you can get your iud inserted? I think the pill or a depo injection or something would work out cheaper in the long run than condoms anyway.
Hubby should just use one if you request it and for a good reason, ... but if it is such an issue it would be worth looking at alternatives that are not cutting down sensitivty, ability to feel temperature, etc, for him. Assuming that is why he objects to their use that is.
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