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writes:So, I got a text and DM (direct message) from a guy last Sunday or Monday asking for another chance because we talked and dated before but we rushed into it last time. This time I told him I wanted to take it slower and I would have to build his trust back. My friend also texted him to see if the text was a joke (because I asked her to) and he told her things and she thought he was genuine. So because of a snowstorm we were out all week last week and so him and I texted basically all day and would facetime late into the night. It was great and he was doing a lot of initiating and saying very genuine sounding things, so I really thought things were going to be okay this time. He's not the greatest text conversationalist so we rented just to flirt a lot over text and on facetime we would flirt a lot too, but we did have better conversations there. He even told his mom about me. Sunday he was out of town so I wasn't worried about getting texts but he sent me the occasional one. The only issue was one of the texts he sent said his phone was about to die and he wasn't home, so I told him I'd let him save his battery for the ride home, but minutes later I'm on snapchat and he is posting videos of his brothers and they are clearly home. Later he did text me tho and then we said Goodnight. Then Yesterday (Monday) he said he would approach me in school when we saw each other but didn't and said he got nervous, which I can understand I do have some intimidating friends. He texted me at the end of the day and asked me to walk out with him. I did and I ended up getting there early and when he walked up he smiled when he saw me and we walked out and I thought things were fine. Last night I got a text saying "Hey" and I replied back. He then said I looked pretty today and I said thank you, and he killed the conversation. Then he responded hours later again with another "hey" text and the conversation wasn't very good and he didn't respond all night, but again he was on snapchat and his score grew quite a lot and he posted on instagram, while I replied at 7is and never got a text back all night, but he was very active on his phone. I really don't know what to think. He said he wanted to put in effort this time and at the beginning he did the last two days have just felt funny. I know school would change the amount of time had to talk and everything but this is so weird to me. Should I be worried? What is happening? (btw I'm 15 so please do not tell me or talk as if I were a middle schooler or 13 year old)
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (2 February 2016):
 Look he probably ran out of things to say to you. He is still making an effort to text you, even if it is only once or twice a day. I am sure he has other things to do. Just go with the flow and don't put to much pressure on him. You asked for things to be taken slow so he is probably confused about how to go around things.
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reader, ellsie96  +, writes (2 February 2016):
 I think the thing you need to ask yourself is what do you want from this relationship?Because you said at the beginning of your post that you 'rushed' things last time, but now you're saying that you don't like that he isn't giving you maybe as much attention as you want?I think he's doing what you asked, trying to take things slowly, you know maybe even playing a bit of a game. When I was 15/16 guys loved to text you reeeaalllyyy slowly but make it obvious they were actually using their phones by tweeting etc. just to show like 'hey, you're not 1st on my priorities, try harder, I'm hard to get', that kind of thing.I think you should maybe try and put in a bit more of an effort too, if that's what you want of him. Be more forthcoming, approach him at school (I know that's daunting) or something like that.Then maybe he'll follow your drift and reciprocate, because at the moment it sounds like he is basically just sort of copying your behaviour, trying not to seem to keen etc.Hope this helps :)
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