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anonymous
writes:Would you be offended by someone calling you sexy, if you hardly knew them ?.Ok, I don't know what is going on with this guy I know. He is a friend of another guy who also said that he likes me. This guy sent me a text message saying that he is starting a new job soon, and he said that he would like to take me out to see a movie when he gets his first wage. He also said he was thinking about me. He has called me beautiful and sexy. Do you think I should call or text him?. I hardly know him, but I do think he is good looking lol. He also said that he fancies me more than his friend does. Do you think it's possible to fancy someone that you hardly know ?. I have only seen him a few times briefly. Also, I wouldn't want his friend to get jealous if I started dating him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2014): I must admit that I'm often flattered when I guy calls me sexy (especially if I think the same thing about him) but, these days, unless it's from a guy I'm actually in a relationship it does raise my hackles a little bit and I proceed with caution.
I have found over the years, that guys who start off with this very direct approach frequently turn out not to be genuine - at least not for women who are looking for a relationship
I've found that sometimes the guy is simply the "flirtatious type" and just likes to come out with lines to impress ladies and make them feel special. They have no intention of extending the relationship beyond the moment - flirty banter is all they want.
OR
They're the type who's looking for a no-strings-attached relationship or FWB. Or he's a player
Don't chase this guy - let him come to you if he's sincere. If he does ask you out and if you do decide to date him, avoid putting out for him for at least 6 weeks. This often weeds out the guys who are simply out for a cheap thrill.
If you aren't after a relationship and just want some hot sex with a good-looking guy (and , yes, it is possible to be instantly attracted to somebody) - then I suppose you *could* be a little more direct in your approach and initiate contact with him yourself. But still proceed with caution - if he turns out to have a wife or girlfriend then it's hands off
Another word of warning... Guys like this are very very attractive and charming. Their direct,confident and assertive approach is appealling to many women who often end up falling for them hard even though they never intended to.
Good luck
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