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writes:hey all, have been with my bf for a while over 2 years and in the start i was very shy and things were very slow but now we are completely intimate with each other. the issue is that he only ever goes down on me every blue moon, but when he does now i dont get anything outa it cos i dont think he enjoys it at all and it turns me off. why is it that i read about hiw guys cant resist going down on a chick but my bf never does?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2008): People are different. Some love oral sex, some hate it. Your boyfriend sounds like he dosn't like doing oral sex on you. That's his right, his preference. Find some other sexual activity he prefers and do that instead.
As Tremor suggests, communication will stop all your worries. You can ask your partner what he likes, and you can tell him what you like. Don't feel ashamed. Your relationship and good sex life depends on honest, open communication. Talk to him and accept if he feels that this is a sexual practice that he feels uncomfortable with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionlol forgot to mention...he gets oral sex every other day when we dont have sex....i enjoy giving it to him...altho sumtimes its a bit off putting
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reader, Tremor +, writes (12 June 2008):
 Everyone is different when it comes to preferences in the bedroom - it could be that your boyfriend just isn't keen on doing it.
Have you tried to encourage him? Does he know you're not getting it as often as you'd like? When you're getting intimate, try pushing his head down in that general direction - not hard, just guide him down there. When he does go down on you, direct him as to what feels good - he's not going to know automatically. And when he does something that feels good, let him know - if he knows that you're enjoying it, odds are he'll enjoy it more too.
Also, return the favour! Don't expect him to perform oral sex on you if you aren't willing to do the same.
But like I said - everyone is different. It could just be that he's not a fan of going down on girls. Don't be afraid to ask him about it - communication will get you everywhere.
Good luck!
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