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writes: It has been a horrid year, I found out my husband was having an affair, it has been 10 months, although I have been looking like I am healing, I am thinking over and over about what he did to me, and his our kids, I know he is sorry, genuinely he is, he is always worried about me, telling me he is scared I am going to pick up everything and leave, problem is when I ask him why he did it he says it was a mistake, an illusion, I cannot except this, a mistake! how can it be a mistake, you meet someone on a computer meet them and screw something you dont know is a mistake, Now what bothers me is the texts I found He is practically begging this person why she is not picking up phone, he texts her and says if it is the decent thing to do to not answer back that it is her loss,,,,,when I question him he says he was scared he would tell me.....I ask him why did he buy condoms...again he was scared she would get mad....he thinks I am stupid I dont think she raped him...why did he actually take the time to buy the condoms if she scared him or he felt he was being blackmailed, oh he gave her money for xmas went out and actually bought her a xmas card by mail, then another xmas card with the money and what was in it on how he couldnt stop thinking about her and so onI feel he fell for this woman,,,He gets upset and says she was disgusting he never wanted me to see her I NEED HELP
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionq1605THANK YOUThat is exactly how I feel, that is exactly what I wanted to hear, I wanted a man to tell me, a man who who can actually say what exactly probably happened,I do wish I was a fly on the wall, but for now I have been trying to forgive him but I dont turn away when men flirt with me I dont respect the fact that if I see a hottie I dont turn oh things have changed, I never gave men the time of day, even now he (my husband) doesnt like the NEW ME I through all my clothing away and bought what I have always wanted to buy, and you know something I am in my early fourties and I am asked if my 13 year old and I are twins, I tan, exercise, and go out with my friends he doesnt care for this but too bad and you know, things will never be the same I love him, but he was the wrong Mr. Right he is the one who wants to stay, me well as cold as this sounds if Mr. Right walks by me today, I AM GONE!!and I am pretty intimate with my husband more than many women who find out their spouse has screwed someone else, but for now things are just OKAYTHANKS U NAILED FOR ME
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAgainMy husband has never had contact with this woman again since I caught him in the affair..she is pissed at him because as soon as I caught him my husband cut all ties with her, he actually said if she ever came around he would take a baseball bat to her head, and he is not an abusive man. She on the other hand told me things and was very inconsistant with her story, when I asked her again she would say something out of context of what she had told me, now folks we are talking about a crack addict in rehab... My husband was horrified to know he was mixed up with someone like this, he doesnt even take aspirin he so against drugs, it really was about the sex she promised to jump through the ceiling for him......I am having a real hard time with this! I need input why he would do this, when we made love almost everyday, it hurts so much, I did so much for this man.Again he never contacted her again, he doesnt want her name anything he says he is disgusted what he did and with whom he did it with.....the love texts he said he was trying to let her down slowly....does everyone believe this is true,,,one text message he says to her "if you dont want me, its your loss" this breaks me up he said this to her did he mean it or was it something sweet to get him laid.....HELP ME
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hello q1605 Sorry I did not verify the texts to this woman, was back when he was having the affair, it stopped when I found her, he has never talked to her again, she has stalked us leaving letters and other things... sorry, but for the last year he has been the best of everything to me...thanx for the concern I am the one unable to get over I know I am really in pain...
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (9 February 2008):
 An affair has happened and it cannot be undone.You can either forgive and move on or be stuck in a time warp or some black hole in space and forever feel aggrieved and sad.
It does not matter how or why it happened . There is really nothing you can do to change what happened in the past.He is guilty and felt sorry for it. You need to lay it to rest and move on or you will be bitter for all your life.
That is your choice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2008): Hi Hunny,
Oh my heart goes out to you, I think you husband was willingly meeting this woman and then she played him. The grass always looks greener on the otherside but as I always say its not the colour its the depth hunny and he missed that..
http://www.howtosurvivetheaffair.com/oi.php?i=533&gclid=CLeYvrfrtpECFRRmMAodtEjUOQ
Ive been there hunny, 3 times 13yrs my first marriage lasted, well the second was abusive, and the third he did it the night before we married and a little later in the year, I couldnt live like this I had been through to much, It had made me very ill, Your husband was silly well more than silly to be taken in by someone off the net, to risk a lovely family and that is why he is panicing now this woman probably does it gets money then fs off and leaves familys devistated, She is probably on to her next victim as we speak, Hunny ive sent you a link for help, You need understanding help and love at this moment if you need a chat message me ill be happy to chat to you, And I would consider going to a counsellor for help in gaining your confidence back, if your husband is willing and you are going to try to get through this together marriage counselling is the way forward love. YOU TAKE REAL GOOD CARE OF YOU SWEETHEART WITH LOVE AND PRAYERS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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