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writes: My bf and I broke up about 6 weeks ago. I'm not really sure why we broke up as I had talked to him the night before and all was good. The next day he didn't answer or reply to my call/text and for the most part is still not. He's text me back maybe 2 since then, and called me once saying "I'm sorry I never meant for any of this to happen this way, I'm sorry" and I've only seen him once since the sudden breakup. Of what I have gotten from him it just seems he's trying to get his life back on track (He's switched jobs, been drinking alot and I think was/is a little depressed). He ended up calling me last week, the 1st time I"ve heard from him in awhile. He was drunk again and was asking me if I was in town. He said he wasn't mad at me. I apologized for all my texts and told him I just panicked because I didn't know if we were over for good. He told me "We're not over for good babe, I just needed to do things for myself." I told him I missed him and he said he misses me too even though he hasn't been showing it and that a day hasn't gone by without him thinking of me. I told him I'd be in town the next day and he said he'd call me. I said I love you, he said "I know, I love you too, I'll call you tomorrow". ..Ok well, I haven't heard from him since. He didn't call that next day when I was in town nor did he answer/reply when I tried to call him. Some might say he only called because he was drunk but he's been drinking alot more lately since we broke up but never called any of those times. I don't know what to make of this? He's never said we were done for good, in fact in that phone convo he said we weren't, but he's still not talking to me again. I love this guy w/all my heart, we had talked about marrying etc. I'm just not sure what to do anymore or where this leaves us. Any advice or similar stories?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI was just curious if any guys had an opinion on this one? Both his brother and sister in law and his mom think his weird behavior lately is probably due to drinking/a little depressed/and his influential roommate who likes to party. However, it's been 2 weeks and I still haven't heard back from him. I text him the first few days after that phone call w/no reply but now I have not sent him anything for a week waiting to see if he'd get concerned that I had finally stopped texting. My bday is tomorrow I i'm going out in the town where he lives. I would love it if he were there to celebrate me but I especially don't want to end up running into him and having it ruin my night if instead he is being cold to me. Any advice on what to do? Should I just continue to not contact him? I really want to talk to let him know I still care & how great it'd be if he were there tomorrow..
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2006): It does sound a bit odd. I really don't know why he would act like this, but if he is suffering from depression that could have something to do with it. Depression is an illness which can affect anyone. If this is the case it would be wise for him to seek medical help with this. Depression is defined by these symptoms:
-sad or depressed mood and/or
-loss of interest/pleasure in everyday activities
+ several of the following
- problems sleeping (waking up early, finding it hard to fall asleep, wanting to sleep all the time etc
- change in activity levels ( feeling lethargic or agitated)
- changes in appetite
- loss of energy
- low self esteem, self-reproach and blaming, guilt worthlessness
- difficulties with concentration, indecisiveness
- recuring thoughts of death or suicide
I don't really know what else it could be. I suffered from depression myself some time ago. It is a horrible thing to have and it does make you act a bit strange sometimes. At the same time it was difficult for me to realise and accept that there was something actually wrong with me, which made it difficult to seek help.
I don't know how you will find out if he won't speak to you however. Do you have contact with any of his close friends or family that could perhaps give you further insight.
I'm sorry to hear of what your going through I wish there was something more helpful I could say to you.
regards x
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