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writes: Hi all cupids...Quick question, I decided to sign up to a dating agancy 2 weeks ago and was amazed at the amount of interest I got. But within 2 hours of joining this guys literally made me laugh so much. He begged me for a date and after a few days i thought why not. We had a great evening and since met a further 3 fantastic times. I really like him and didnt expect to at all. He is cooking for me tomorrow night and text me yesterday to say he is glad its one less sleep till he sees me again. I thought that was so sweet. But apart from our texts we havent actually spoke on the phone or seen each other for 3 days, I dont want to ring him as I dont want to seem over keen and I know I am seeing him tomorrow night anyhow. He must like me.... but am I just being bit too keen wanting him to call??
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2009): Hi Anonymous,
Ofcourse you are not too keen, in 2 weeks you were (only)3 times together.
Call him in the evening(s) and learn his reaction and learn if the enthousiasm is mutual.
An sms you can sent from any place at almost any time.
Realize that he was already on the site and might be talking to minimum 10 other women at the same time, which is very usual.
If you are a bit good looking (and looking for a date) and you are new on a site, the messages you get can be enormous, I was with women who got 400 reactions in a day. (women have more reaction then men in general).
I have been a year on a dating site and have met and also slept with quite a few women.
It was a great time, I learnt to read faces very well, was already aware very good what kind of woman I was looking for, had some very intense relations and also in the end... she found me and we are really happy together. (from the first day we talked every day 4 hours because she was living 8000km far away).
But before I often took the car to drive 50,100, 200,350km to learn if the stories were as beautiful as the reality.
I cooked, learnt zouk and salsa together, educated children, kept neighbours awake during the night :):), was often a counsler and was realizing very well that I had no ambition to be a personal counsler.
It took me a year,
some rules for succesful using datingsites if you are looking for a longtime relation:
*stay away from somebody who is just divorced or a person who is not over a former relation
*recognize if the guys have 'love in the eyes'
*ask what they expect of the life (together) and look if your expectations are competible
*many people are lying about age, weight, old pictures
*use quickly the webcam
*don't loose too much time with talking, but if it feels really good, meet
*If an answer on msn is taking more time then yours, he is talking to somebody else at the same time
*realize that it's easy as long as you are not really living together, to talk and contact many others (existing and new contacts from the site(s)
Let him cook a nice meal for you. Good luck and follow your female intuition...always
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2009): thanks to both of you - i think iim just nervus and excited at the same time!! This dating stuff has me all over the shop !!! xx
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