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writes:A male co worker and I get on really well at work. I just feel this chemistry with him I've not felt before. I can't work him out though, he always nice to me, has a joke with me asks me to do things for him. He asks me a lot about myself. He's flirted with me once or twice, I know he likes me as a colleague, but I don't know if he's attracted to me any more than that. It's bittersweet though, because I just want to be with him, and I don't want to meet anyone else, because when I do, I just wish it was him. I don't know what to do, he's not my boss but he's more senior than me at work. I can't possibly ask him, but he's a bit of an enigma so I really don't know what he thinks. What do you think I should do? If nothing else, do you think there could be a chance he likes me (he's also older than me)Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2014): He's not a flirt by nature, I see how he is with others. Really though, we just get on really well, on a friendship level if nothing else, and I know he likes working with me. He values me and respects me as a person, I know that much. It's just frustrating because I like him so much, he's never talked about a wife or kids to me so I don't know
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (19 September 2014):
 Eh, I so advise against office-romance - because the old saying "don't crap where you eat", REALLY does ring true. The workplace is where you WORK, it should be a professional atmosphere, not a place to hook up or look for dates.
A little banter is FINE If you can separate that from romantic notions.
You have build this guy up to be some "god-like fella" on a pedestal all over a little flirting. Do you even know if he is married? If he is just flirt by nature? Maybe that is HOW he gets people to DO thing for him, by being nice and flirty...
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reader, devont  +, writes (19 September 2014):
 It is hard to say from your post if he likes you.If you like him, just ask him out. It doesn't have to be a big thing, maybe if you've had a busy day ask if he wants to get a drink after work or something? If he says no, you've not really lost anything and if he says yes, well then you can take it from there.I met my girlfriend at work, I was slightly senior to her and I am eight years older than her... We got on well, but the aforementioned factors meant I didn't really think she'd be interested (she also had a boyfriend when we first met).Then one day, a friend cancelled plans on her, and she asked me to the cinema instead. And the rest, as they say, is history. You don't have to have a conversation about whether he likes you or not, just ask him to do something casual outside of work and see how he responds. Good luck!
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